And what if you are both reading this book? Heavens. Then
you must not tell each other you are—Rule 1—but then race
to be the first to say sorry. Could be interesting. Let me know
how you get on.
Saying sorry has many benefits, even if it does stick in your
throat a little. Not only does it give you the moral advantage,
but it also diffuses tension, gets rid of bad feelings, and clears
the air. Chances are that if you say sorry first, your partner
will probably be humbled into apologizing also. Maybe.
Always remember you are not apologizing for the sin or crime
or faux pas you have committed—you are apologizing for
being so immature to have argued in the first place, apologiz-
ing for losing your cool, apologizing for forgetting Rules,
apologizing for being boorish or argumentative or stubborn
or rude or childish or whatever. You can come out of your
room now.
WE CAN SAY SORRY AND
RETAIN OUR DIGNITY AND
RESPECT.