find a grown-up friend comes back, and you can share a whole
new relationship with them.
Hold them back, and they’ll resent you for longer. Take it per-
sonally, and they’ll take longer to return because they’ll feel
guilty.
And you can show this to your teenager: Don’t give your par-
ents too hard a time. They are feeling just as threatened by this
new relationship as you are. Give them a break. They’re
making it up as they go along, just as much as you are.
THEY HAVE TO
BREAK FREE BEFORE
THEY CAN COME HOME
AGAIN AS SOMETHING
MORE THAN JUST
YOUR CHILD.