I think that one would have to be already acclimatized to kundalini and ready to
work with it, this means that ego must be already somewhat compliant and positive,
ie: open. With Grace things don’t have to be perfectly aligned, for the alignment
descends from on high, BUT we have to be able to let the lesser attributes and
states drop away. Perhaps the ultimate in rationality is the willingness to suspend
rationality, or to “go-beyond-it,” that is. Through this union we are using the
bodymind to transcend the bodymind. Kundalini, being the speed of spirit, makes
it feel like we are growing at great speed as a couple, but if the two are not similarly
activated the relationship will dissolve under the differential speeds. The individual
that is not in an awakening will strongly seek to revert to their habitual speed as
their inertial ego demands control. While the more activated partner will long for
someone similarly lit with a vast potential for opening. Thus to prevent disaster we
have to find a partner that is capable of matching our own expansiveness.
Inspired action, the spiritual drive of Eros is our own deepest Self, source and
condition. The unquestioned response to Spiritual Eros is freedom, whether it be
to produce a child, paint a painting, write a sonata, create an institute or fast. In
order for reception and abeyance of Eros however, the inner man must be alive
and not subdued by decades of unprocessed pain. What we normally assume as
freedom, “the ability to choose,” is not freedom at all. The texts say that those who
engage in the joint nirvikalpa practice will experience hell unless they have a teacher
- someone who has been there before, has a pure heart and is heroic. Perhaps work
on the shadow in relationship requires these three allies also. Hell could be seen as
the inability to live one’s authentic Self. Freedom is the choiceless response to Eros
whereby all our holons sing in unison. Individuals have to stand on their own two
feet spiritually speaking. Sovereignty is the ticket to nirvikalpa, for one has to be
sovereign in order to sacrifice. Sovereignty could indeed BE sacrifice: an ongoing
daily stripping away of the lesser self. So in this sense sovereignty is synonymous
with bravery. This is perhaps why the individuation journey is called the Hero’s
journey.
Love is not for the faint of heart! Sovereignty is none other than the realization of
the Self or Soul. Why should this take heroism? Because it requires “transcendence,”
it requires faith and the ability to trust in the unknown and the unseen beyond
the veil of awareness and the event horizon. Bravery takes the post-linear skill of
humor. That is probably why the Fool is one of the most courageous and successful
of archetypes—because he is light on his feet and dances with the opposites of
light and dark with equanimity. Rather than conservatism, reactionary or even
revolutionary, he is enjoying himself, simply playing the fool and dancing a tantric
jig between the forces of light and dark.
Because it’s the most differentiated (has the greatest depth) the spiritual level is
the hardest for a couple to meet in. The ability to relate on the spiritual level is part
faith, part grace, part piety and part courage. The homing beacon for truth has to
be stronger than the one for security. Or rather security is sort in spirit not mind
or matter. Consider also that the ego automatically resists and opposes, so if one’s
partner is going in one direction, we may react and go in the opposite. Spiritual