When she does marry, her mate is often a fellow classmate, col-
league, or competitor. Usually her marriage has an egalitarian
quality. These days, she is likely to keep her own name, and not
change to his once she does marry.
RELATIONSHIPS WITH MEN: BROTHERLY
The goddess Artemis had a twin brother, Apollo, the many-faceted
God of the Sun. He was her male counterpart: his domain was the
city, hers the wilderness; his was the sun, hers the moon; his the
domesticated flocks, hers the wild, untamed animals; he was the
god of music, she was the inspiration for round dances on mountains.
As a second-generation Olympian, Apollo was in the generation of
the sons, rather than the fathers. On the one hand, he was associated
with rationality and laws. On the other, as the God of Prophecy (his
priestesses prophesied at Delphi), he was also associated with the
irrational. Like his sister, Apollo is androgynous: each had some
qualities or interests that are usually linked with the opposite sex.
The Artemis-Apollo twinship is the model most commonly seen
in the relationships Artemis women have with men—be they friends,
colleagues, or husbands. Moreover, the Artemis woman is often at-
tracted to a man whose personality has an aesthetic, creative, healing,
or musical side. His work may be either in the helping professions
or in a creative field. He is usually her intellectual equal, with shared
or complementary interests. One example of an Artemis-Apollo re-
lationship is that of Jane Fonda (actress, activist, and advocate of
physical fitness) and her husband Tom Hayden (liberal politician).
An Artemis woman is not at all charmed by dominating men and
“Me Tarzan, you Jane” relationships. Nor is she interested in mother-
son relationships. She avoids men who insist on being the center of
her life. Standing tall psychologically, as the goddess herself did
physically, she feels ridiculous attempting to play the role of “the
little woman.”
Often an Artemis-Apollo relationship and outdoor interests go
hand in hand. Both partners may be skiers or runners and physical
fitness buffs. If an Artemis outdoor woman cannot share backpack-
ing, skiing, or whatever she loves to do
Artemis: Goddess of the Hunt and Moon, Competitor and Sister