MENTORS Magazine

MENTORS MAGAZINE | EDITION 1 | 49

A “people pleaser” is one of

the nicest and most helpful

individuals you can meet.

They never say “no”, can al-

ways be counted on for a

quick favor and get the

job done.

Being a people pleaser

doesn’t sound half bad

right?

Yet, the truth is that it

can be an extremely un-

healthy pattern of be-

havior and one that

runs deep into our sub-

conscious. By constantly

looking for affirmation for

others, you aren’t always

doing what is best for you.

People pleasers come in all

shapes and sizes. They can

be highly impressionable,

have an intense need to not

be wrong, emotionally im-

mature with low self-esteem

and oftentimes addicted to

approval. It causes us to ac-

cept things in our lives that

are completely out of bal-

ance, including attracting

the wrong types of people

and staying in bad relation-

ships -- both personal or

professional – way too long.

While almost everyone ex-

hibits people-pleasing traits

to a degree, there are some

where these types of behav-

iors are taken to a toxic level

• and that is where things
  can go awry.

Here are 15 signs you

are a toxic people pleas-

er – and what you can

do about it.

15. You are impressiona-
ble.

How impressionable are

you? Do you think for

yourself, or do you al-

ways ask the opinions of

others? Do you believe eve-

rything that is told to you, or

do you investigate the truth

for yourself, and then make

an educated decision?

People-pleasers have a ten-

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