New Idea – March 19, 2018

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My husband passed

away many years

ago. I’ve recently

met a really nice

Debbie, your dad

was 85. Elderly

people are more at

risk because of their

age, especially

involving surgery. He got to

have you all there when he left

your world and entered the

world that gives everything back

to us that was taken from us in

life. That’s a blessing. As I read

your question, I get the sense

that your dad had a sarcastic

sense of humour and when you

asked if he knew he was dying,

I hear him say: ‘I was wondering

why I was still here!’

All of the love you gave to

your dad since the day you were

born, he carries in his heart.

You’re part of your dad, he’s not

gone. He’s just catching up with

friends and family. He will one

day be there to greet you. But,

my sense is, that you’ll be seeing

him around you before then.

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I lost my mother in

August 2017. She

was 73 when she

lost her battle with

cancer. I was her carer, back

and forth in hospital and

during chemo. I am finding it

hard to move on because she

was always there for me. Was

she angry with us that we put

her in hospice?

Trace, via email.

My dad passed

away recently after

complications from

surgery. It was

a shock to our family – he was

85 and we didn’t know he was

as sick as he was. We were all

with him when he passed away.

Tracey, you took care

of your mother, she

knows that you love

her. When someone

goes in to a hospice,

it’s because they need around-

the-clock care. You’re one

person, she needed more than

you could give her, so stop being

so hard on yourself. She wasn’t

angry with you, she was focused

ALLISON

DUBOIS

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OF OTHER PEOPLE’S MISTAKES

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on dying. Your mother would be

happy that she was so lucky, able

to live enough years to raise you.

No-one deserves cancer and

I’m sorry that she had to endure

it. She would be glad that she

lived for 73 years. She had a

beautiful life. She’d be saying to

you, ‘Look at me now! I’m young

and vibrant again and hugging

all of the people that I buried

throughout my life.’ Your mum

is in a place where she can relive

the happiest days of her life.

Juliette, you say that

you’re happy with

him, let that be

enough for now.

You’ve been married, you’ve had

commitment. My sense is that

this man is afraid of moving and

making a mistake.

Give your relationship time

to unfold, enjoy your time with

him. He’s not a husband you’re

waiting for to get home, he’s a

boyfriend. Let the newness of

your relationship and the magic

settle in, if you start making

demands, you might lose him.

person and

I feel happy

with him,

although I wonder if

he is totally committed. He

lives 10 hours’ drive from me

and visits occasionally for

a number of days. He says he

is going to sell his home and

move to where I live but hasn’t

been to visit for over three

weeks. Sometimes he is

critical of me and this irks me

as he is not perfect. Do you

see a future for us?

Juliette, via email.

I took both my pet dogs for a

morning walk. When we came

home, I got ready for work and

nothing was out of the ordinary.

Then, I discovered my beautiful, little

boy had passed away at the foot

of my bed and it seemed without

a struggle. I was mortified. It’s been

four years on, and I miss him terribly.

What happened? Is he okay?

DEIDRE, VIA EMAIL.

As I tune into the spirit world I sense

Jasper on the other side with two

other pets from your past, at a time

years ago when you lived in a

different home or area. Please

know they are all together in spirit

and bring their love to all of you

today. Jasper’s energy is very loving,

loyal, friendly and harmless.

He is a very sensitive soul who

disliked sharp jarring noises or

sudden surprises when he was here.

Jasper preferred calm and peace in

his daily world and he shows me

you gave him that affection every

moment and thanks you for all of

your care and kindness. Jasper

says even though his heart simply

stopped on that morning when he

was ready to move into the higher

life, he has never left your side and

continues to be your loving shadow

as you plan to take that relaxing trip.

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M ICHA EL

WHEEL ER

My dog, Jock, passed away recently

and I feel really guilty that I did not

resuscitate him when he became

unwell as I thought he was dying.

Did I make the right decision? He

was 16 years old. I can’t stop

thinking about him and I dream

of him constantly. I miss him so much.

Is he happy and at peace? Is he still

with me in spirit?

MARGARET, VIA EMAIL.

As I tune into the spirit world I see

Jock patiently waiting close by you

just as he loved to do in life when he

was here. Jock comes through with

a wonderful grin on his face, a smile

that says he had such a fun-filled life

with you where

he lived his life

completely to the

brim. Jock wishes

you to release any

regrets you still

have and hold close

to you. He wants

you to allow

yourself to let go

of the sadness.

Did he know he was dying?

Debbie, via email.

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