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1 Andre with eight

Grand Slam wins

7 Russell of

“The Americans”

11 Indian state in

the Western

Ghats

14 Lanai furniture

material

15 “You said it!”

16 Furthermore

17 Make Todd stay

home after

a “Meet the

Press” blooper?

19 Untruth

20 Large planter

21 Barnacle spot

22 Hoofbeat sound

23 “Breath, __,

Memory”:

Edwidge

Danticat novel

25 Refuse to let

Wood exhibit

“American

Gothic”?

29 LEGO buys

31 Long-necked

waders

32 Iberian

peninsula

country

35 Bigelow or

DuVernay

37 “__ we meet

again”

38 Make Garfunkel

pay for breaking

a recording

contract?

41 Regret

42 Hands over

44 Luxor’s country

46 Folklore

monsters

47 Lavish party

49 Donate twice

as much as

Gates?

51 Family nickname

55 MLB stat

56 Retain

58 Filing aid

59 “You got it”

60 Maneuver

Phillips into

telling how

he got the

“Dateline NBC”

job?

64 “Mangia!”

65 “Motor Trend”

topic

66 Pad of paper

67 Med. caregivers

68 Cook up

69 Uses delaying

tactics

DOWN

1 Quarrel

2 “Lincoln at

Gettysburg”

Pulitzer winner

Wills

3 Square things

4 Disco __ of

“The Simpsons”

5 Went to the

bottom

6 Behind, so to

speak

7 “The Two Fridas”

painter

8 Bird that won’t

fly away

9 __ room

10 HP product

11 Valor

12 Bowlful often

topped with

melted Gruyère

13 Skilled (at)

18 Animator’s

sheets

22 Gator kin

24 Need a lift,

maybe

26 __ seed pudding

27 Golden State

Warriors coach

Steve

28 Storybook sister

30 Completely

32 Sault __ Marie

33 Speckled

legume

34 Humanitarians

35 __ Plaines,

Illinois

36 Jobless, in a

way: Abbr.

39 Archipelago part

40 Govt. crash

investigator

43 Steals from

45 Opening

47 High spirits

48 Phone

notifications

49 Laundry

appliance

50 “No need to

remind me”

52 Ring-shaped reef

53 Group of jurors

54 Helps in a heist

57 Jr. challenge

60 Pinot alternative

61 Sharing word

62 GPS display

63 Scheduling abbr.

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The Lincoln Memorial dedication ceremony took place

100 years ago with a crowd that was racially

segregated. Former Confederate soldiers were given

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t has been 100 years since the dedi-

cation of the Lincoln Memorial on

the National Mall in Washington.

Henry Bacon was the architect of

the memorial’s overall design, in-

spired by an ancient Greek temple called

the Parthenon. Daniel Chester French

worked on the inside of the monument,

including sculpting the massive marble

statue of a seated Abraham Lincoln.

Construction of the memorial lasted

eight years, ending in a dedication cer-

emony on May 30, 1922. The memorial

was Bacon’s last project and is the one

he’s most famous for, and it is one of

French’s most important achievements,

too.

Their contributions to one of the most

recognizable American memorials are

well documented and celebrated. How-

ever, if you dig deeper into history, you’ll

find that another sculptor also contribut-

ed: Evelyn Beatrice Longman.

Longman, who in 1919 became the first

woman elected as a full member of the

National Institute of Design, was a talent-

ed sculptor who assisted French. Long-

man designed the lettering of Lincoln’s

speeches that are engraved inside the

monument, along with the ornamenta-

tion of wreaths and eagles that surround

them.

Dana Pilson is a curator at Chester-

wood, French’s former summer estate

that is owned by the National Trust for

Historic Preservation. Pilson curated an

online exhibition about French and

Longman’s close professional relation-

ship and friendship. She says that Long-

man, who was French’s only female assis-

tant, was also one of his closest confi-

dantes when it came to art.

“It’s not just a case of the teacher

influencing the student. I think it’s much

more mutually beneficial,” Pilson says

about their professional relationship,

which started in 1900, when Longman

was age 26 years old and French was 50.

French relied on Longman’s advice and

taste about as much as Longman relied

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The L incoln Memorial was dedicated 100 years ago in Washington. While Henry

Bacon was the architect of the overall design and Daniel Chester French sculpted

the huge Abraham Lincoln statue, sculptor Evelyn Beatrice Longman designed

the lettering of Lincoln’s speeches, above, and t he wreaths and eagles that

surround them. The three contributors, left, view the c onstruction in 191 7.

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on his. “When you read his letters, you see

just how much he treasured her,” she

says.

Longman had an illustrious career,

creating many public monuments and

significant statues. These in-

clude the Spanish-American

War Memorial in Connecticut

named “Spirit of Victory,” a 12-

foot bronze bust of Thomas Edi-

son at the Naval Research Acad-

emy in Washington, and the

“Spirit of Communication” stat-

ue that became a symbol for the

company AT&T.

Pat Hoerth, who is married to

Longman’s grandson and is

working on a biography of her, says that

“she was relentless in pursuing her art.”

However, there is little recorded evidence

that Longman thought much about being

a trailblazing woman by pursuing art in

the early-20th century, Hoerth says.

“She didn’t make a big deal about the

woman thing. She just made a big deal by

beating men in competition,” Hoerth

says. “The big commissions for monu-

mental art, they were blind com-

petitions. So people didn’t know

that she was a woman when she

competed.”

Not only was Longman’s work

on the Lincoln Memorial impor-

tant, but she also helped main-

tain the grandness of the project,

her husband, Nathaniel Horton

Batchelder, said in his unpub-

lished memoirs.

During construction, French

and Bacon were having second thoughts

and wanted to scale back the memorial.

Longman knew that wasn’t a good idea.

“She convinced them that whatever the

costs... they had to do it,” Hoerth says.

Evelyn Beatrice

Longman

Hi, Carolyn: Out

of nowhere, my

sibling informed

our family that he

has been very

unhappy in his

marriage of

almost 20 years

and wants a

divorce. Our

family is reeling, and we’re all at

a loss in how to handle it. His

wife is a lovely person and they

have children, which is making

this even harder.

We love him, but are also

angry at him for choosing this

because, from our perspective,

his reasons don’t seem acute

enough to end a marriage.

Additionally, I find myself

handling my parents’ feelings, as

they are extremely hurt and

angry about it. This is a burden

on me. I am also angry and upset

but have closed off that area

because it’s almost too much to

emotionally manage.

I’m staying supportive of both

parties and hoping they are

willing to attend counseling. But

I’m also fearing the worst and

know I will have to help pick up

the pieces of whatever happens.

Do you have any advice on

how parents and siblings of those

going through separation and/or

divorce should act?

— Sibling

Sibling: Act as if it wasn’t “out of

nowhere” for him.

Act as if it is not your

marriage, or divorce, to judge.

Act as if your most

compassionate role is to play no

role at all.

When you say his reasons

“don’t seem acute enough,” you’re

declaring yourself qualified to

judge this. But you aren’t. No one

is if they don’t wake up in this

marriage personally every day.

You do not know how it feels to

be your brother.

The lovely person he married

and the mother of his children

could just be wrong for him.

That’s it. A bad fit. And maybe he

has worked for two decades to

make a bad fit into something

better — for all the same reasons

you want him to keep trying,

even — and maybe now he’s tired

enough that working at it is no

longer a healthy option.

Are you really all going to

gather round to say, “Sorry, bro,

your unhappiness doesn’t meet

our family threshold for doing

something about it”?

Of course there are good and

bad reasons to leave marriages.

Self-preservative, and selfless,

and hurtful, and thoughtful, and

disloyal/rash/long overdue ones.

Maybe his reason is one of the

worst. But there are bad reasons

to stay, too. Who wants a spouse

who doesn’t want to be there?

The only bystander who can

make these distinctions with any

accuracy with any given couple is

one humble enough to know how

much is unknown.

I realize your brother’s

decision set in motion certain

things that involve you — like

upset parents dumping their

stress on you. It is indeed your

place to manage these.

But you can do so in most

cases by deciding upfront what

you will and won’t discuss, with

whom. “Mom, Dad, I understand

you are upset, but I can’t be the

one you lean on right now.” “I

love you/them both and don’t

feel comfortable talking about

this.” “Only the people in a

marriage know what goes on

inside it.”

Act as if being sad about

something — genuinely,

legitimately, understandably sad

— and actually being able to fix it

are two different things. I’m

sorry you’re all going through

this.

Write to Carolyn Hax at

[email protected]. Get her

column delivered to your inbox each

morning at wapo.st/gethax.

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He wants out of his marriage, and

his family is divorced from reason

Carolyn

Hax

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