Ditch jealous
boyfriend?
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readerSandra
Haguesays,‘It
soundsasthoughhehas
someissuesandjealousycan
causea lotofproblems.It also
seemsasthoughhecould
becomecontrolling,which
canbea major
problem.Think
carefullywhat
youwantoutof
thisrelationship.
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havebeenhurt
whenina
relationship
whereoneperson
wantstocontrol
theother.I would
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Helen, 23
WalsallI
’ve been with my boyfriend
for a year. While we have a
great relationship and love
each other very much, over
the last few months, I’ve
noticed he’s become jealous
whenever I see my friends,
many of whom are guys. He
often tells me how he doesn’t
like them and that he finds
them annoying. We’re in our
early 20s and I don’t want to be
stuck at home every night
watching TV, I want to be out
having fun with other people.
Having a life outside of my
relationship is important to me
and I don’t want to cut off
contact with my friends and
I’m worried he’s becoming
controlling. Should I break up
with my boyfriend?Pick Me Up!
reader Christine
Hinchliffe says,
‘l wouldn’t break up with him.
However, l would definitely
have words with him. Tell him
they’re your friends, nothing
else. This will put his mind at
rest as he might
be feeling
threatened.
Before you do,
ask yourself how
you would feel
if he was going
out with his
mates if they
were female? This
way, you might
understand how
he’s feeling.’Liz, 46
GuildfordM
y teenage son has
been dating his
girlfriend for two
months. She’s a lovely
girl, and they make a great
couple. However, last week, my
son told me his girlfriend’s
parents allow them to sleep in
the same bed at her house. I
allowed him to stay over at her
house assuming, because
they’re both 16, her parents
would make them sleep in
separate bedrooms. They’re
good kids, but I don’t like the
idea of them doing this. I don’t
want them rushing anything.
Should I put a stop to this?Pick Me Up!
reader Sandra
Ball says, ‘I
wouldn’t let a 16-year-old
sleep with their partner and I
would expect the same from
their parents in their house.
People might say it’s modern
society now, they’ll do it
anyway, but what if the girl
gets pregnant? They’re young
and it’s early days, they may
not even stay together and
will move on with their lives.
I’d be far happier with them
in separate rooms.’● FamilyLives can help you
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reader Agnes
Martin says,
‘If they are of consent age
then I don’t see a problem.
If you make a fuss it will only
make them more determined
to go against your wishes.
You say you like her and they
make a great couple, so
what’s the problem? Didn’t
you do anything like that
when you were young? I’d
rather them in my house than
out goodness knows where.’No
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