Practised in a safe, sane,
consensual and fun way, BDSM-
themed sex-play can amp up
the level of erotic energy, says
Salome Mitter.
The fi nal trailer of ‘Fifty Shades Freed’ released
this November. And it sure gives audiences a feel of what
lies in store come February! After all, it has been this erotic
romantic drama trilogy that introduced us poor innocents to
the scandalised delights of Bondage, Dominance, Sadism
and Masochism (BDSM). So, were we all truly horrifi ed
by the sex games played by the very controlling Christian
Grey and the virginal Anastasia Steele? Evidently not! A
survey in the UK’s ‘Daily Mail’ alleged that almost 80% of
women and 90% of men are excited by the domination and
submission theme of the ‘50 Shades’ trilogy. Why? – some
might wonder? Why not, they will chuckle back wickedly!
NO VANILLA, JUST SPICE!
To do the math, if a couple has sex even twice a week, by the
time they have completed just a year of marriage, they have
done the deed at least 104 times. Now, how many times
can one repeat the act, mostly in the same position, in the
same place, and with hardly any variety, and still be reduced
to a mass of quivering delight? This is perhaps why the idea
of domination and submission - not the hardcore stuff but
a playful, fun variety - is so attractive. It can bring in an
unknown, surprise factor and make sex a lot more exciting.
Long-term couples are generally entrenched in lovemaking
patterns that are neither physically nor mentally arousing.
Playful BDSM livens up things by adding fl avour to what has
probably become vanilla-bland sex. The novelty of physical
sensations combines with the mental eroticism of sexual power-
play, to add a deliciously taboo element to sex. It has the power
to kick-start the sexual connection of lethargic couples who
are assailed by doubts about whether they have fallen out of
love with each other, lost their spark or are bored of each other.