The novelty of physical sensations combines
with the mental eroticism of sexual power-play,
to add a deliciously taboo element to sex.
These negative thoughts can actually take a toll
on otherwise rock-solid relationships. Several
couples experience the capacity of playful
BDSM to completely revive partnerships, and
invigorate damaged relationships.
PLAYFUL BDSM
Playful BDSM does not mean pain. It can
cover everything from playful role-playing to
spanking to tying up your partner and teasing
him/ her with a feather. It must be completely
consensual. The limits need to be set by both
partners themselves. Couples must create a
safe word - whenever one of them says that
word, what’s going on must stop immediately,
no questions asked. When a couple is starting
out, they must discuss the scene in advance
and plot how things will take place. When
practised in a safe, sane, consensual and fun
way, BDSM-themed sex-play can amp up the
level of erotic energy, so why not give these
ideas a shot sometime?
— CREATE THE SETTING
Do improve the look of your bedroom. Clear
the space off children’s toys, laptop, dirty
laundry and all the other stuff that makes
it cluttered and homely. Try satin sheets
for the bed, if possible. Use a diffuser to
burn aromatic oils and also replace that
bedside lamp with a red bulb!
— TEEING OFF
Since sexual anticipation plays a key part in
BDSM, you can start off by rolling the dice
or fl ipping the coin to decide who will be the
dominant and who, the submissive. Whoever
wins the round, needs to plan out a sexual
experience for the partner. Build expectation
by dropping hints about what lies in store.
That should get the juices fl owing nicely!— TWEAK YOUR LOOK
While it’s understandable if you don’t want
to go out and invest in leather thongs or
latex briefs, a few items of bold clothing and
accessories can defi nitely up the novelty
factor. Change things up a little. Aim for a
more vampish look. Change the way your
body feels and looks, whether by using a
new perfume, a temporary tattoo or even
using those high heels in bed.
— KNOTTY BUSINESS!
Who needs hard-core handcuffs? Use
cotton cord or silky scarves as restraint
gear to help the dominant partner indulge
in a playful sense of sexual control, while
the submissive partner quivers in erotic
vulnerability. You can try different positions,
such as spread-eagled on the bed, or arms
tied overhead to a shower rod.
— PLAYING IT BLIND
Using his necktie or your scarf to blindfold
him, can make things a lot more exciting.
When sight is restricted, it heightens the
other senses in a most pleasurable way.
— SPANKED!
Playful spanking leads the blood to rush to
the buttocks and genital region, naturally
increasing sensitivity and pleasure. Add a
role-play element for extra impact, such
as you playing the teacher and him, the
naughty student; or he the CEO and you,
the submissive secretary.
— ICE IS NICE
The dom can use a cube of ice to run over
the blind-folded partner’s body. Slid over
sensitive areas like the genitals, it can
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