My girlfriend and I have been dating for two years. Things
have been getting more physical. At least I thought they
were. I have tried to seduce her several times to take
things to the next level, but she always pulls back and
reacts as if I am forcing myself onto her. I’m stuck and
don’t know how to read her. Please help.
Vikas Singh, DelhiHi Vikas. I can feel your confusion, and it is not going
to sort itself out no matter how many times you ‘try
to seduce her’. In fact, pushing the limits in bed will
only lead her to clam up more. It’s time for you to
have a genuine heart-to-heart outside of bed. Tell you
how her refusal to take it further is confusing you.
And then let her lay her cards on the table. Sure, you
have been dating two years which is not exactly a
short time. However, that does not automatically mean
that you two must go all the way. Listen to her point
of view. Maybe she is scared of losing her virginity
before marriage. Maybe she is afraid of the pain of
the fi rst time, of getting pregnant, of you possibly
losing respect for her, or maybe it’s just your body
odour! The point I’m trying to make here is that the
answers need to come from her. And whatever her
answer is, you will have to accept it. It would then
be up to both of you to fi nd ways to fi nd pleasure in
each other, without breaking her limits. Defi nitely
workable, if you truly love each other!
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E [email protected]It would then be up
to both of you to find
ways to find pleasure
in each other, without
breaking her limits.
Definitely workable,
if you truly love each
other!