18 DECEMBER | JANUARY 2018 best health besthealthmag.ca
ELIZABETH WIENER AND LISA BROOKMAN
Elizabeth Wiener is an educator who lives with depression and anxiety. Lisa Brookman is a clinical psychotherapist
based in Montreal. Together, they form WiseWomenCanada.com @wisewomencanadaLISA SAYS...
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DON’T GIVE IN TO THE TEMPTATION
to bury yourself under the covers until Jan-
uary. Avoidance may feel like an easy way
out, but challenging yourself to step outside
of your comfort zone can be exactly the positive rein-
forcement you need. Don’t decline every invitation.
Pick and choose a few special events – you might just
be surprised at how much fun you’ll have.
If you’re anticipating feeling anxious or depressed,
be proactive and schedule an appointment with your
therapist several weeks ahead of time. Talking about
your stresses and learning coping strategies can help
you deal with negative feelings if they arise.
Consider giving back. Volunteering gives us an
opportunity to help others, makes us feel purpose-
ful and takes the focus off our own life stresses.
Volunteering is another opportunity to share the
holidays with others without the pressure of the
party scene. bhELIZABETH SAYS...
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I STRUGGLE WITH SOCIAL ANXIETY, AND THE
thought of a party comprised of strangers and small talk
is both intimidating and scary. I choose my social invita-
tions carefully. Big celebrations are not my thing, but
smaller get-togethers with close friends and family feel warm and
com for t i n g. I’ve lea r ned t hat you shou ld n’t feel obl i gated to say yes
to every invitation. Choose wisely and celebrate with company
that makes you feel comfortable.
Planning my own holiday get-togethers helps me enjoy the holi-
day season. Focusing on the menu, decorations and music playlist
is a wonderful diversion, and being in charge of my own guest list
makes me feel in control. There’s comfort in knowing what to
expect and joy in celebrating with the people I know and love.
Sometimes celebrating solo is the right ticket. I like to practise
self-care during the holiday season by treating myself to a spa
treatment, a trip to the movies or a brisk walk among the twin-
kling holiday lights. Taking a breather from the crowds and the
hustle and bustle of the season helps me find peace and balance at
a very overwhelming time.
I’M NOT FEELING FESTIVE. CAN I SKIP THE PARTY CIRCUIT?
Twinkling lights abound, spirits are high and holiday cheer is tangible. December is the month where
we’re expected to put on our party shoes, toast to the New Year and revel in the company of friends
and family. But for those who struggle with their mental health, the celebrations and expectations of
the season can feel overwhelming, and avoiding parties altogether may seem like the best option.
With careful planning, there are ways to enjoy the holidays that aren’t limited to hibernating solo
with a Netf lix marathon.