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love & lust
COSMOPOLITAN June 2015 135
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hen Kiri first met
her ex, “he made me
laugh like no other
human being”. After
a year of fun banter,
Kiri wanted to get
more serious – but Luke* didn’t. So she
broke up with him... and, a few months
later, got back together with him. Then
broke up with him, took him back, and
broke up with him for the next six years.
“I’d want more and end it, then
he’d panic and chase me,” says Kiri. “I’d
think, ‘Oh, he does want the same things.
He knows he made a mistake.’ Then I’d
get back together with him and the whole
cycle would happen all over again.”
Kiri and Luke aren’t the only ones
breaking up and making up on a loop.
Dating déjà vu happens to lots of us: an
estimated 44 per cent of people aged >In 2015, a clean
break takes a few
tries. Welcome to
the modern era of
dating on a loop,
when your new
boyfriend also
happens to be
your old boyfriend
When you wish
you could quit
him but can’t.