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Q: I WAS ON A DATE WITH A NEW
GUY THAT I REALLY, REALLY LIKE
WHEN I CHOKED ON MY FOOD AND
SPIT IT UP ONTO THE TABLE. HE
LOOKED AT ME WITH SHOCK AND
HORROR FOR A SPLIT SECOND, THEN
HE PUT HIS ARM AROUND ME AND
COMFORTED ME. I’M EMBARRASSED.
DOES HE SECRETLY THINK THAT I’M
TOTALLY GROSS NOW?A: OK, so you did a gross thing, but
that doesn’t make you gross as a person.
Plus your guy handled your spit-take
like a true champ, so don’t worry. Going
forward, all you have to do is change
one little thing – chew your food better!Q: My boyfriend puts on a
serious poker face during
sex. How can I get him to
loosen up and have fun?
A: Sex partners with differing styles
can seem like actors in two different
movies – especially if you’re climaxing
in IMAX while he’s as mute as Charlie
Chaplin. So take the lead and act out.
Loudly. When things quiet down, tell
him that it’ll be easier to give him what
he wants if you know how he’s feeling.Q. I HAVE A HARD TIME
GETTING WET, EVEN
THOUGH I’M AROUSED.
WHAT’S UP WITH ME?
A. Vaginal dryness isn’t
just for menopausal older
women. It affects young
women, too. “[Dryness]
can have a mental, physical
or even a pharmacological
cause,” says ob-gyn
Jennifer Ashton. Anxiety
and lower oestrogen
levels due to birth-control
pills can limit blood flow
and dry out the mucus
membranes down below,
which are responsible for
lubrication. Cold and
allergy meds can have the
same effect. Try adding
some lube to your sex life.Q. I HAD SEX AND THE
CONDOM GOT STUCK
INSIDE ME AND I DIDN’T
FIND IT UNTIL LATER
THAT DAY! IS THERE A
CHANCE I COULD GET
PREGNANT FROM THIS?
A. Take a deep breath...
but the answer is yes.
Losing a condom inside
your vagina exposes you
to the risk of not only
pregnancy, but STIs, too.
Take Plan B right away,
and go see your gyno,
stat, for an emergency STI
screening if you and your
guy haven’t already done
that and swapped results
with each other before
the lost-condom incident
went down.Q: IS IT WEIRD
THAT I SOMETIMES
FANTASISE ABOUT
HAVING HOT SEX
WITH A COMPLETE
STRANGER?A: Nope – it’s perfectly normal. A recent study in The
Journal of Sexual Medicine found 49 per cent of women
dream of sex with an “unknown person”. It doesn’t mean
you’re a freak or a terrible girlfriend – that Hemsworth
lookalike you saw at Starbucks is a sexy mystery. Unlike
your boyfriend of two years, he’s never belched in front
of you. Stranger danger? More like, stranger, do me. #Q. I’M A LESBIAN, SO
WHAT DOES LOSING MY
VIRGINITY MEAN FOR
ME? IS IT ORAL SEX?
A. You might consider the
first time you have oral sex
as losing your virginity. For
two gay guys, it might be
anal. “Gay people can lose
their virginity in many
ways: vaginal or anal
penetration with a finger,
dildo or other object, or
via oral sex,” says Barbara
Sayad, who’s a lecturer at
California State University
Monterey Bay and studies
virginity. It’s not all about
P in the V – two Ps or two
Vs can lose their virginity
as awkwardly or sweetly
as anyone else.WORDS BY MICHELLE RUIZ. TRUNK ARCHIVE; SHUTTERSTOCK; GETTY IMAGES
COSMOPOLITAN June 2015 143
SEX Q&A
Q: My friend once hooked
up with a guy (she called him
Moose Dick), but nothing
came of it. Now he’s asking
me out, and I’m into him. Do
I need to talk to MD and my
friend about each other?
A: If they were one-and-done, you have
nothing to hide. As for Mr (Really) Big?
If you get serious, tell him about your
friend and his nickname. He may love it!
The male moose
is a showboat:
every year, it
grows a new
set of antlers
to impress
the ladies.No-BS responses to questions you can only ask Cosmo