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HOT MOVE:

SWEETEN THINGS UP

 Policy: Always order dessert on a

first date. Consider sharing. Maybe.

HOT MOVE:

BE BOLD

 It’s easy – just make the first move.

Whether it’s in the bedroom with your

loyal hubby, or at the bar with that guy

you’ve been eyeing up, (wo)man up and

get things started.

Another option is to show off your

erotic enthusiasm outside the bedroom

by creating a little bit of sexual tension.

“When we’re out together at a restaurant

or with friends, Elana will put her hand

in my back pocket and grab my bum, or

she’ll wink at me across the dinner table,”

says Brett*, 25. “It’s like she can’t wait

to get me alone, which makes me want

to be alone with her even more.”

 “Before leaving for work,

my wife will come up behind

me while I’m brushing my

teeth and give me a cuddle,”

says Hakim*, 30. “Then she

kisses me goodbye and flies

out the door. For the next

eight hours, all I can think

of is how we’ll continue the

cuddle that night.”

Few guys have the self-

control to create this kind of

cheeky anticipation on their

own – rather when they get

excited, they want to get

busy right there, right then.

That’s why most men really

dig it when a woman teases

them before the main event.

“Show him how much better

a drawn-out lust session

can be and he will credit

you with deepening his

personal life,” says therapist

Rebecca Rosenblat, author

of Seducing Your Man.

HOT MOVE:

GO OFF THE RADAR

 Tweeting, calling, texting or status

updating your friends after a date may be

ruining your relationship chances. “When

you know you’re going to share later, you

miss opportunities to connect because you’re

mentally narrating evening,” explains Jean

Cirillo, author of The Soul Mate Myth. The

antidote? Get in the habit of keeping details

on the DL, so your focus is on flirting, not

on Facebook flaunting.

HOT MOVE:

BUILD ANTICIPATION

HOT MOVE:

TELL HIM EXACTLY

WHAT YOU WANT

 Forget about the oft-repeated phrase,

“I don’t mind”. If he asks you where you

want to go for dinner, or what movie you

want to watch, speak up. Guys love it

when you’re in the driver’s seat at least

some of the time.

HOT MOVE:

HAVE A SIGNATURE STEP

 Run your fingertips lightly up and

down his forearm while you’re on the

couch watching TV. Studies have shown

that light, feathery touches like this one

send oxytocin flooding through your

system. It’s proof that sometimes, less

really is more.