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ILLUSTRATIONS BY PATRICK GEORGE. ORGASM SPECTRUM SOURCE: DEBBY HERBENICK; BARRY KOMISARUK, DISTINGUISHED PROFESSOR AT RUTGERS UNIVERSITY WHO HAS STUDIED THE FEMALE ORGASM FOR 30 YEARS. C

OREGASM SOURCE:

THE COREGASM WORKOU

T BY D

EBBY H

ERBENICK

COSMOPOLITAN July 2015 141

I’ve had straight friends tell me that they would tell their

man what they want, but they’re nervous about making

him feel bad. That needs to stop. It’s possible lesbians

are better at saying “Do it this way.” But oral sex, fingers,

toys, role-play: it’s all stuff available to every gender and

sexuality. (Studies do show lesbians are more likely to

have oral sex and use vibrators, so there’s one clue.) It

might be hot to fantasise that he senses what you need,

but that’s a fantasy. Speak up. There’s nothing sexier than

someone whispering what they want you to do to them.

WE’LL HAVE WHAT

SHE’S HAVING!

83 PER CENT OF LESBIANS SURVEYED SAID THEY HAVE ORGASMS

MOST TIMES THEY HAVE SEX, COMPARED TO 56 PER CENT OF

STRAIGHT WOMEN. ARIEL SCHRAG HAS THOUGHTS AS TO WHY

The coregasm workout

Exercise-induced orgasms are no myth. These

moves could help you lose it in your Lulus

Doing it

together

1. GIVE YOURSELF THE FINGER. If you
   need clitoral love during P in the V,
   buzzing a fingertip vibe – try the
   Lelo Finger Vibrator ($53.95, wild
   secrets.com.au) – on your clitoris
   during doggie is a game changer.


2. GET IT ON BEFORE YOU START
   BARHOPPING not after. Alcohol
   makes you want to jump your
   partner’s bones, but it produces
   vasocongestion, down-there swelling
   that keeps him from going deep,
   which can make it harder for you to
   finish. Tequila is a cruel mistress.


3. SEX SHOULD NOT FEEL LIKE
   WINTER’S BONE. Lube it the eff up,
   please (both you and your partner,
   before and/or during The Naughty).
   Almost 50 per cent of women say
   lube makes it easier to orgasm. And
   forget the myth that it’s just for older
   women – all the cool kids do it.


4. TELL HIM TO SLIDE A FINGER (or
   two) into you while he uses his
   mouth on your Georgia O’Keeffe.
   Internal and external play is twice
   as nice for your orgasm chances.


5. DON’T YOU AND HE FORGET, the
   clitoris extends down our labia in
   the shape of a wishbone. So he
   should lick or stroke the labia while
   down there. Hello, O!


6. GOOD MORNING! Many women
   prefer getting it on in the AM. No
   beer slowing down the sparks, no
   calzone exacting revenge...


7. TRACK YOUR CRIMSON WAVE

• on the 13th day of your cycle
  (right before you ovulate), your
  testosterone levels peak, resulting
  in a high sex drive and bigger
  orgasm potential.

8. 75 PER CENT OF WOMEN TOLD
   COSMO they need to feel close to
   someone to orgasm. You don’t have
   to get it on with a life partner to get
   it off, but Herbenick has this advice:
   “Pick someone who’s nice to you
   and you feel cares about you.” >

O, REALLY? THE MAMMAL WITH THE LARGEST

CLITORIS IS THE SPOTTED HYENA.

COSMO

SURVEY

ages 18 to 24

ages 25 to 29

30s

It gets better with age

and experience!

HAVE YOU

EVER HAD AN

ORGASM?

84%

92%

96%

HOW TO HAVE AN ORGASM

exactly^

2. LEG RAISES. Lie flat on back
   with arms at sides and legs at
   90 degrees (a). Bend knees
   slightly and lower legs slowly.
   As your back starts to arch,
   return to start (b). Do 10 reps.


3. KNEE RAISES ON
   A CAPTAIN’S CHAIR.
   Step onto foot
   platforms and
   tighten abs, like
   you’re about to be
   punched in the gut
   (a). Lift knees
   towards chest,
   keeping back flat
   against the chair
   (b), and then return
   to dangling position.
   Do 20 times.

a

a

b b