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ask him
Q. I wasn’t in the mood for
sex and my BF was, so he
asked if I would show him
my boobs and talk dirty to
him. Should I be providing
masturbation inspo?A. Don’t do anything you
don’t want to do. That said,
he’s offering up a compromise:
“I want you. You don’t want
me. How about at least some
visual stimulation?” On the
plus side, he’d rather fantasise
about you than a porn star.anything
love & lust
Q. My ex-BF recently came
out. I support him, but I’m
confused because I thought
we had awesome sex. How
could I have been so wrong?A. Coming out is about more
than just what you do in bed.
It’s a process of embracing
one’s full identity, and that’s
complicated. So this doesn’t
mean everything was a lie.
He just hadn’t figured himself
out yet. If you have questions,
ask him – but only if you’re
ready to be a good friend.
No matter how awkward this
might be for you, remember
it’s been harder for him.Q. I caught my BF looking
at porn, which I’m fine
with! But he doesn’t want
to watch it together. Why
won’t he share his porn?A. He might be shy for a
number of reasons: (1) A lot
of women are not as accepting
as you. Maybe he thinks you’re
secretly judging him. (2) He
may have a kink he worries
will turn you off. (3) Maybe
he likes to keep fantasy and
reality separate. If the thought
of watching porn with him
turns you on, send him your
fave links. Maybe he’ll show
you his if you show him yours.LOVE ADVICE
FROM OUR
GUY GURU,
LOGAN HILLA. Even in an age of Tinder hook-ups, some guys want
to take it slow. His saying no doesn’t mean you don’t
turn him on. Whether he’s a romantic or just drank too
much, this is almost definitely more about him than you.Q. I BROUGHT A GUY HOME AFTER THE FIRST DATE,
AND HE SAID HE DIDN’T WANT TO HAVE SEX – WTF?Q. I’m secretly dating my
co-worker and we’re really
into each other. Should one
of us leave our job if we start
getting serious?A. Falling for a co-worker
doesn’t only ever happen on
Neighbours. According to a
recent survey, almost 40 per
cent of people have dated a
colleague. First, check your
company’s policy. Some offices
ban it when one employee
reports to the other – so if
one of you is the boss of the
other, someone might need to
start job-hunting. But before
you go there, ask yourself if
you see your romance making
it in the real world – or are
the flirty Snapchats just fun
for now? Spend more time
together outside work and
try to find out. Unless you
get real-deal committed,
leaving your job is a crazy-
big sacrifice.