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Q. I like masturbating to
porn sometimes – mostly
couples stu or oral-on-her.
But right after I orgasm, I
feel completely disgusted
with myself and the video I
just watched. What’s my deal?A. “Our world still has quite rigid
ideas about what’s acceptable
sexual behaviour, especially for
women,” says Lynn Comella, an
associate professor of gender
and sexuality studies. If society
still shames porn (and BDSM
and polyamory), you may shame
yourself for watching it too. But
Comella says, “Like men, women
deserve guilt-free orgasms.” If
porn turns you on, there is no
shame in that game.Q. My new hook-up really
wants me to touch his
bum during sex. Does that
mean he’s secretly gay?
A. “Being gay is way more than one sexual act,” says sex
therapist Anna Randall. (Rather, it’s a sexual identity.) It’s
not uncommon for men of all orientations to be curious or
even butt-crazy (sorry) about anal pleasure. It makes sense,
as there are a lot of pleasurable nerve endings in that area.
If you’re open to it, try gently stroking around the opening
during a BJ or HJ. Ask him to coach you through it, suggests
Randall. It may end up being a new item on your sex menu.Q. I want to have hot, throw-
me-up-against-the-wall sex
(like they do in the movies).
What’s the best way to do it?A. Dim the lights, cast Charlie
Hunnam, and go for gold. Or
wrap a leg around your man’s
thigh for leverage while he grabs
your bum cheek for balance. It
could be a challenge for him to
angle his penis just so, but don’t
despair – instead, try multiple
takes like they do in the movies.
Or fool around against the wall,
then get horizontal for the main
event. Lights, camera, action!Q. I’m super-horny and
cruising Tinder like a
madwoman before my
period. What’s going on?A. PMS could stand for
Prowling for More Sex,
mainly because the
hormone progesterone
spikes pre-period,
which makes our
womanly parts
extra sensitive.
Even “your
underwear brushing
up against you can
make you hornier,”
says sexologist Rachel
Ross. Progesterone also
leads to more discharge
and lubrication.WHAT’S THE BEST
SEX TOY...
that I can customise?
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