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LOGAN HILLQ. I’m hooking up with a guy who likes
me to leave on my shirt or dress while
we have sex. So he wants to sleep with
me, but he doesn’t want to see my body?A. Don’t assume the worst. Your nude
body might turn him on so much that
he comes too quickly. Or he might just
be more turned on by the idea of half-
clothed sex than the full monty. (There’s
something hot about getting it on so
fast that you don’t have time to take it
all off.) The only way you’ll find out is
to ask him. Then let him know that you
feel sexier when you’re nude. And why
not have fun with it? It’s the rare man
who doesn’t love a striptease. You could
make it a game – he doesn’t get to touch
you until you say so... and you’re nekkid.Q. My crush invited me to be part of his
book club. I feel crippling anxiety about
saying something stupid at the meeting.
How should I play this?A. You don’t have to go all Oprah, raving
about how the book changed your life.
Just chime in with an “I wondered that
too” when someone brings up a point.
Or jot down a few questions before and
ask them through the night. Remember
you won’t be graded on participation,
so being quiet – i.e. mysterious – is OK.Q. MY HOOK-UP GETS RANDOM TEXTS
AT 2 AM WHEN I’M SLEEPING OVER.
I’M DYING TO KNOW IF THEY’RE
FROM ANOTHER GIRL. HOW CAN I
FIND OUT WITHOUT STALKING?A. His friends might occasionally text
him late at night – but if this is a regular
thing, we both know the texts are from
women who want to bone him. That
said, he’s not your boyfriend, he’s your
hook-up. If you want to be exclusive,
have a convo about your relationship,
not who’s booty-texting him. As long
as you’re just FWBs, it’s his business.Q. I’M DATING SOMEONE
WHO INSISTS ON PAYING FOR
EVERYTHING, AND IT MAKES ME
REALLY UNCOMFORTABLE. HOW
CAN I LET HIM KNOW WITHOUT
COMING ACROSS AS UNGRATEFUL?A. The way dudes tiptoe around money,
it can seem like we’d rather talk about
butt plugs than who’s picking up the
cheque. (Mostly, I think guys pay just
to avoid the awkward conversation.)
But wanting to pay your own way is
as natural as wanting someone to go
down on you. Tell him, “I respect that
you’re a gentleman, but I’d feel more
comfortable if we took turns throwing
down the plastic.” When you alternate,
you can always end the date with a
promise: “I’ve got the next one.”