TAKE THE PRESSURE OFF
SHE SAYS: “C’mon, lighten
up a little.”
DO THIS That’s her way of
saying you’re being too
polite. So tease her
- especially when you’re
just dating. For instance,
inject playful innuendo
(“Can you stop checking
out my arse? I’m not a
piece of meat!”). That’s
called affiliative, or
bonding, humour, the kind
linked to romantic
happiness, says clinical
psychologist Dr Sara
C aird. I t ’s also k n ow n as
taking the piss.
SHE SAYS: “I’m so tired of
arguing all the time.”
DO THIS Talk i t o u t
immediately. But when
you start feeling
overwhelmed, say you
need a break – even if that
means sleeping on it and
re-engaging in the
morning, says Cordova.
“You have to negotiate the
things about each other
that you find challenging.
T h at way yo u’ll b o th fe e l
comfortable being totally
authentic, allowing your
relationship to evolve.”
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