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Q.AGUYIMETTHEOTHER
NIGHT WANTS TO HAVE
ANAL SEX. IS IT TRUE
THAT ANAL HAS GONE
MAINSTREAM?I’MNOTSURE
ABOUTIT.PLUSTHETHOUGHT
OF HIM STARING AT MY ARSE
THEWHOLETIMEISN’TMY
IDEA OF SEXY. ANY IDEAS?
Q.MY BOYFRIEND LIKES
TO GET THINGS GOING BY
WATCHING PORN. THEN
HE FORGETS ABOUT ME
AND I’M LEFT WATCHING
HIMWATCHPORN.THIS
CAN’T BE RIGHT?
SHE SAYSIfthe‘staringatthebum’issuemakesyou
uncomfortable, stick to missionary and girl on top
(reversecowgirlisoutofthequestionaswell–lotsof
bum-staring).Ifyoudon’tlikeanalbecauseit’snot
pleasurable,oryou’redoingitjustforhim,don’tdoit.
HE SAYSIndeed–he’llgetoveritifyou’renotintoit.Has
bottysexgonemainstream?Yesandno.Truthisit
haskindofalwaysbeenthere,itjusthasn’tbeenspoken
about.Analisancient.Peoplehaverootedthatwaysince
biblicaltimes.Butit’sprobablyduetotheriseofporn
watching that anal is fairly common nowadays. I blame/
cheerontheLadyGagasandKimKardashiansofthis
world.Peoplearemoreexperimentalwhenitcomesto
everything.Takefood–didyourfolkseatkalechips20
yearsago?Sexinalmostallitsshapesandsizesisless
shockingandmorespokenaboutnowthaneverbefore.
Withsex,theassumptionisthatit’sallbeendone.Sowhy
nottrysomethingelse?Ipredictthearmpitwillbenext...
SHE SAYSAnal is also a great way not to fall pregnant.
HE SAYSTrue.Asforpleasurepoints,whileit’strue
thatwomendon’thaveaprostate,apparentlythe
feeling of being ‘filled’ is pleasurable.
SHE SAYSAlsoifyou’renervousbutkeentotryanything
once,havealittlelocksmith’skithandy:condom,wine,
lube, wine, flattering lighting, lube. Lube is your friend.
HE SAYSPerhapsplayrelaxingmoodmusic.Irecommend
somethingsexylikeD’Angelo.Soundgarden’sBlack
Hole Sun is not appropriate.HE SAYSPorn can be fun
if both of you are into
it (normally it’s funny
to watch naked people,
but naked people taking
themselves seriously is
hilarious).Thatsaid,it
shouldn’t become your
sole source of foreplay.
SHE SAYSTry moving him
awayfromtheTVto
the bedroom. Distract
himwithyourownskills,
making sure his backis towards the TV and
eyesareonyou.Ifyou
prefer to have the sound
effects emanating from
thebigguyandthe
blonde going at it, turn
off the visuals and play
the sound through
some speakers.
HE SAYSIf he’s that into
it and you wind up
watching him going
slack-jawed, it doesn’t
sound like you’re thatinto it. Do you agree
on the type of porn
youwanttowatch?Is
he into deviant granny
porn while you prefer
foot fetishists? Try and
find a middle ground.
SHE SAYSOr better, make
avideoofyourselves
and watch that.