TFW YOU’RE
TELLING HIM
A FILTHY
FANTASY
AND IT FEELS
NATURAL.BABY, YOU’VE GOT
DEEP DESIRES...
THAT YOU CAN
BARELY SPEAK OUT
LOUD. WE’LL GO
FIRST, AND HELP
YOU OWN YOUR
BETWEEN-THE-
SHEETS CRAVINGS.LIFE
JUNE 2017COSMOPOLITAN 163
Fifty-two percent
of you, per our sur-
vey, want the scoop
on fantasies—and
how they connect
to real life. “Fanta-
sies are healthy,” says
sex and relationship
expert Emily Morse.
“The more you can
find things that turn
you on, go with it.
No one has to know.
There’s a difference
between things that
you want to happen
in real life and sce-
narios you just enjoy
thinking about.” But
if you want to make
your naughty dreams
reality, share sexy
thoughts outside
the bedroom. Say
something like
“ There’s something
I’ve wanted to
try” or “You know
what sounds hot
to me?” to get the
dialogue rolling.Sex
Not at all. Women’s sex drives ebb and f low based on a bunch
of variables, like stress, body image, and hormones, says rela-
tionship therapist Laura Berman, PhD, author of Quantum
Love. If it’s bae who’s not in the mood, get to the bottom of
what’s snuffing out his libido. Whether you’re coupled or sin-
gle, never be ashamed to admit it’s been a while. When some-
one asks you who you’re doing, just say, “I’m just not having sex
right now.” If you are solo and want that to change, don’t be
afraid to add, “If you know anyone, hook me up!”You and so many others: According to the Cleveland Clinic, only 10 percent of women cli-
max easily. Before you throw around blame, remember that you can’t tell someone what
makes you peak until you’ve ID’d your pleasure hot spots yourself. Yup, it’s time for some
DIY action. Experiment with your hands or a vibrator to figure out what works. Then,
do a little demo for your boo next time you’re getting it on. Worried about offending your
bedmate? Don’t be. Nonchalantly say, “I’m just gonna get my vibrator”—and once your
partner witnesses your epic O, he or she will be glad for the technical assistance, says
Cindy Gallop, founder of the site MakeLoveNotPorn.tv.“Ugh! I almost
never orgasm
during intercourse.
How can I tell
my partner
to finally
get me there?”“I’m going through
a sexual dry
spell, which is both
embarrassing
and weird, right?”“I am pretty sure
I don’t actually
want to be flogged
or be part of
an all-girl public
orgy, but thoughts
about those things
turn me on.
I’m mortified!
Please explain this.”LUMINA IMAGES/STOCKSY (2)