ALL QUESTIONS
ARE ANSWERED
BY DR MICHAEL
CARR-GREGG,
GF’S ADOLESCENT
PSYCHOLOGIST.I don’t belong here
A friend and I had a fight and went our
separate ways. I started hanging out
with this big group of girls, but all they
do is argue. I don’t feel I belong in their
group, but I have no one else to hang
out with. Lonely
Someone once said, life is an adventure in
forgiveness. Given your discontent with the
current group, the smart thing to do is to
contact your friend and tell her you are
sorry, you made a mistake and would like
to reconnect. You have nothing to lose
and everything to gain. You don’t have
to cut off your relationships with the other
group either. If she isn’t interested there
are always other people both in and out
of school. Saying sorry is one of the
greatest gifts you can give yourself..family & friends
3 MODELS WHO
BROKE THE MOULD
- yes, the definition
of model looks is
defs changing.
Model ambition
I’ve always wanted to be a model
and make it big like Kate Moss and
Cara Delevingne, but I don’t think
I’m even remotely pretty, let
alone model material! My best
friend is stunning, is already
doing some modelling and is
literally everything people look
for in models. She doesn’t
understand how I feel and just
says, “stop being negative”, but
doesn’t understand because
she’s perfect. How can I deal
with not being model material
but wanting to do it so badly?
Dreamer
It is great to have realistic and achievable
goals. Before you discard your dream, chat
to a school counsellor. There are careers
that sit around modelling like
photography and art direction that you
may not know about. As for your BFF,
comparing yourself to her and
focusing on what you’re not rather
than what you’ve got makes it
harder to be happy. Constantly not
feeling ‘good enough’ is a sure way to
be very unhappy. Celebrate her gifts
but remember that you have some
too, and learning to love ourselves
increases our enjoyment of life.life
SUPPORTIVE SISTER
My older sister told me she might
be bisexual and came out to my
parents. My dad isn’t pleased. How
do I get her to open up to me
because I really want to help?
Caring
Wow! It says a lot about you as
a person that your sister chose to
discuss her emerging sexuality with
you. She has trusted you with a
significant and highly personal
piece of information. It may take
time for your father to adjust but
in the meantime, there is nothing
to stop you from being a safe place for her to talk about bisexuality. You
may also be able to help your father by introducing him to the organisation PFLAG,
for parents, family and friends who are drawn together because someone they
know or love is GLBTIQ. Its website is pflagaustralia.org.auWinnie Harlow:
This amazing
babe happens to
have vitiligo (and
has appeared
in Beyoncé’s
visual album
Lemonade).Madeline Stuart:
This teen has
Down syndrome
and has walked
the runway at
New York
Fashion Week.Crystal Renn:
She kicked her
eating disorder
to the kerb,
re-emerged a size
12 and is the first
plus-size model to
walk for Chanel.SEND YOUR QUESTIONS TO: GF Advice, GPO Box 7801, Sydney NSW 2001 OR email JLUOIULHQG#SDFLFPDJVFRPDX
with the subject line ‘Sex & Body’ OR 'Life' OR 'Family & Friends Advice'. Information in these sections should not replace a visit
to your GP. We can’t answer every question straight away, so if you have a serious concern, please see your GP immediately.
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A VISIT TO YOUR GP FOR ANY MEDICAL CONCERN. THE AGE OF CONSENT IS 16 YEARS OLD (17 IN SA AND Tas.) IF YOU OR YOUR PARTNER IS OVER 16, AND THE OTHER ISN’T AT LEAST 16, SEX IS ILLEGAL.girlfriend.com.au 75 girlfriendMAGCOMING OUT
I’m 14 and want to come out so badly- I want to scream, “I’m pansexual and
agender!” to the whole world. But there’s
a guy in my class who would probably beat
me up for it. I don’t have many friends
and I’ve advised them they can leave me
if I get bullied and beaten up, because
I don’t want them to get hurt. Is there
a right thing to do? Worried
Your sexuality isn’t a choice, but the when,
how, and who of coming out is. If you don’t
feel safe, sometimes it’s best to wait to come
out at school. Rather than coming out to the
whole world it may be better to start with a
safe person. Pick your time and place carefully,
and write down what you’re going to say
first. You’re not alone. There are other people
out there who’ve been where you are. Try
chatting to a trained counsellor anonymously
at Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800.