Womens Health Australia September 2017

PHOTOGRAPHY: JACQUES WEYERS

DREAMS MEAN

WHAT IT MEANS It doesn’t necessarily

indicate you miss him or wish your current

partner was more like him. This dream is about

you. “It usually means your ex has a trait or

quality that you’re challenged to own in

yourself,” says Wallace. For instance, if you

dream that you got it on at the airport (which

can represent a desire to get a plan off the

g r o u n d ) , t h e n yo u r e x ’s p r e s e n c e m ay s i g n a l

you’d like to inherit his go-getter attitude.

FROM DREAM TO REALITY Let’s be real:

regardless of what the dream means, this

r e - e m e r g e n c e o f yo u r e x p r o b a b l y b r o u g h t

b a c k s o m e f o n d m e m o r i e s o f h i s s e x u a l

skills. So take advantage. DO NOT mention

your steamy dream to your current partner.

Instead, show him which moves you liked,

suggests O’Reilly. Loved how creative your

ex was during oral? Loan your guy one of

your toys and let him work magic with

tongue and vibrator. Add some hand play

by guiding him exactly where you want him.

SEX DREAM SEX DREAM

SEX DREAM

WITH AN EX

WITH A FEMALE FRIEND

WHAT IT MEANS O n t h e s u r f a c e , i t c o u l d

j u s t b e t h a t y o u ’ r e t o t a l l y i n t o a H e m s w o r t h

• nothing odd about that. More often though,
  it can symbolise a craving for attention,
  e i t h e r s o c i a l l y o r f r o m y o u r p a r t n e r, s a y s
  Morgan. It could also be a positive side
  e ff e c t f r o m e n g a g i n g i n m o r e m e - t i m e.
  W h y w o u l d n ’ t L i a m w a n t t o s e x y o u u p w h e n
  you feel as great as you do these days?
  FROM DREAM TO REALITY Channel the
  excitement that comes with having a sexy
  star in your bed into role-playing fun. “It
  can be the antidote to boredom in the
  bedroom,” says O’Reilly. But rather than
  r e s o r t t o m a i n s t r e a m i d e a s , e n g a g e i n y o u r
  real fantasies, like you’re the burlesque
  d a n c e r h e j u s t w a t c h e d o n s t a g e , o r y o u ’ r e
  Jane to his Tarzan, says O’Reilly. Just make
  sure to establish a safe word first.

WHAT IT MEANS If you’re

straight, you really don’t

need to start questioning

your sexuality. Hooking up

with another woman likely

represents a feminine side

of yourself (like your caring

or nurturing abilities) that

you’re coming to terms

with. “Say a high-flying

executive dreams she’s

WITH A

CELEBRITY

THE NO-EFFORT ORGASM

Dreams aren’t the only way your brain can influence

arousal. Just imagining sexual pleasure can be enough

to get some women off. A recent study in the journal

Sexologies found that women who didn’t have erotic

thoughts during sex had significantly fewer orgasms

than those who did. “Fantasising ahead of time can

prime your body for arousal,” says O’Reilly. When

you’re relaxed – taking a shower, lying in bed, on

a leisurely stroll – clear your thoughts so your mind

can wander,” says O’Reilly. “Fantasise about being

seduced, being a seductress, or any other thought

that gets you going.” Soon enough, you’ll likely feel

the sexual tension building in your body. O-mazing. WH

Life etc sex

having sex with a woman. It

could mean that she needs

t o t u n e i n a n d b e m o r e

sensitive to the people she

works with,” says Morgan. It

could also signal that you’re

looking for more of an

emotional connection in

your sex and love life.

FROM DREAM TO REALITY

Wo r k o n m a k i n g s e x m o r e

of a prolonged and

sensual experience. “Slow

everything down and

don’t rush,” says Morse.

“Explain, for example,

that you’d like him to

slowly undress you.” And

don’t forget eye contact.

“Staring into each other’s

eyes can make you feel

more connected.”

DREAM ON

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