unbearably difficult and we reach for what we believe comforts us.
For instance:
“The kids have stressed me out and now they are in bed I can have a
glass of wine”
“I need a drink to calm me down”
“I’m tired and a drink will make me the life and soul of the party”
“I’ve been rejected and eating a load of crap will make me feel better
about myself”
“I’m bored and need something to eat/drink”
However, now we are becoming the observer. Watching the mindless
dialogue and seeing that if we remain inside the snow globe we
cannot change it; we have to step back and see the bigger picture.
From this perspective we can see that the substances that we have
always used to control our feelings are, in fact, creating many of the
problems. So feel into the space between you as consciousness and
the current issue, realise that you can change anything, take your
power back.
Can you experience yourself as pure consciousness? Can you
separate yourself from the drama? Can you see that this is the very
path that will set you free?
Come back to the sounds again, noticing the space between them
and you. The space between you and the plane in the sky, between
you and the cars passing by, the voices on the street, the birds in
the tree in your garden. There is so much space, with an atom being
99.99999% energy and only 0.000001% matter it is everywhere, yet
we only focus on what is solid, what is tangible, what we can explain.
But living from a place of space frees you up, untangles you
from the stress of life, and from that place it is easy to not only
let go of thought in meditation, but the triggers to drink, use
drugs, binge, shout or abuse.Inner space
As the ‘formal’ meditation ends, ‘real’ life is beginning; our practice,
mere mind training for every encounter that we have during our day.
A life built upon this ‘inner space’ is one of connection, balance, bliss
and freedom; why wouldn’t you want that?
Addiction is closed, tight, restricted and suffocating. It takes
away and removes one from their purpose and truth. The complete
opposite is, of course, freedom — and a meditation/yoga practice is
a direct path to self-realisation; a fast track to the union of self. And
it doesn’t matter how bad things have got: freedom is around the
corner for anyone who believes it is possible. So surround yourself
with believers, refuse to listen to those that tell you that liberation
is not possible for you, and come ‘home’ to yourself over and over
again on the mat.
You are not the snow globe; you are the observer of it, and you
can change your experience in an instant. Life is about moment-to-
moment choice, and everything is available to you, waiting for you to
shift your perception and choose a different reality. But we cannot
do that without inner space; we cannot see the whole picture when
we are intent on only looking at one corner. So step back, take it all
in, extract yourself from the drama, and make space for a new kind
of living.Jo De Rosa is founder and director of Quantum Sobriety, a
revolutionary addiction programme based on meditation, and will
be touring the UK during January giving donation-based workshops
(quantumsobriety.com/uk-tour-2018)