The Washington Post - 20.10.2019

SUNDAY, OCTOBER 20 , 2019. THE WASHINGTON POST EZ EE E13

I’ve never understood why

people make fun of height when

absolutely nothing can be done

to change it! I’ve learned not to

take it too personally.

When someone rudely asks,

“Do you play basketball?” I

respond, “No, are you a jockey?”

and I change the topic. Most get

the message.

Those who pursue and ask,

“How tall are you?” get my

favorite response: “Taller than

you!”

Juls

Juls: You win.

Amy’s column appears seven days a

week at washingtonpost.com/advice.

Write to [email protected]

or Amy Dickinson, P. O. Box 194,

Fr eeville, NY 13068.  You can also

follow her @askingamy.

© 2019 by Amy Dickinson distributed by

Tr ibune Content Agency

path toward healing their broken

hearts.

I can’t tell you the number of

times families have felt terribly

conflicted because they want to

honor their loved one’s request,

but they need the opportunity to

acknowledge their love and

gratitude for the person they’ve

lost.

Julie

Julie: Thank you so much for

lending your expertise to this

very tough question. Grieving

people have legitimate needs,

and after a loss, their own

emotional needs should be met.

You are performing an important

service, as a steward and a guide.

Dear Amy: I sympathize with

“Short and Fed Up.”

I am a 6-foot-2-inch woman.

For most of my life I’ve had to

deal with people who made fun

of my height. This started in

kindergarten.

yourself a local. Then it will be

your turn to resent newcomers.

Dear Amy: I love your advice

because it is always very

practical and you look at things

from multiple perspectives. But

... (you knew the ‘but’ was
coming) I’m responding to the
recent letter from TK, and have
to point out something from my
14 years in the death-care
profession.
Funerals and memorial
services are ABOUT the deceased
but they’re FOR the people who
are left behind.
When you love someone and
they die, there’s a need to honor
their life and the connections
built during life. This is a really
important part of grieving.
I’m not saying the event has to
be a traditional gloomy religious
experience. As a certified
celebrant I focus on the person’s
life, their legacy and pointing
their loved ones on a healthy

phenomenon is definitely

affecting rural communities.

The rise of telecommuting is

probably one factor, because this

means that you can continue to

draw a high salary as you live in

a beautiful place that

unfortunately also has lower

wages and fewer professional

opportunities.

But your question is really

about relationships. You should

continue to dive into local

friendships. Use your

professional expertise to help

local organizations. Some people

will not be able to overcome

their own prejudices to accept

and befriend you. There is

nothing you can do about that.

Understand their concerns, use

your wealth for good, love where

you are and appreciate your

privilege — but don’t apologize

for it.

If you fall into the expected

pattern, within a relatively short

period of time you will consider

nonlocal moves in and is able to

afford the ever-increasing cost of

rent or real estate.

Since moving here, I

understand this issue. I am near

a national park, and the visitor

rates have skyrocketed. Many

people come to the area to buy

weekend homes or Airbnb

rentals, which drive up the prices

for locals who generally work

low-paying jobs.

I just want to plan my

retirement in an area I love, but

in some friends’ minds, that

makes me the enemy.

I don’t know how to deal with

this. I want to be part of the

community, and I have been

trying. I am not someone

swooping in just to make some

money. I don’t know how I can

fix this with my friends who are

starting to see my presence as

part of the problem.

Former City Folk

Former City Folk: Yes, this

Dear Amy: Two
years ago, I made
the decision to
move from a city
to a rural area
because I knew I would never be
able to afford to buy a house in
that city.
I can telecommute for work,
giving me the ability to make a
good salary and live almost
anywhere I want.
Since moving, I have made
many local friends, many of
whom can only dream of earning
the kind of money I make. That
hasn’t stopped me from making
friends; I don’t care about a
person’s wealth.
This hasn’t been a problem
until recently. I have decided to
buy a house in the area I moved
to. This is the house I plan to
spend my retirement in.
My friends are divided. Many
are happy for me, but others now
consider me “the problem.” The
problem as they see it is when a

Living in the country while drawing a city salary causes friction with friends

Ask Amy

AMY
DICKINSON

MUSIC-CONCERTS

Free parking in

garage under

overpass; Please

allow extra time for

ID checks at the

gate.

FREE,

no

tickets

required

John Philip Sousa Band Hall,

Marine Barracks Annex,

1053 7th St, SE,Washington, DC

202-433-4011

Live streaming at:

http://www.marineband.marines.mil

The music of Duke Ellington, George Gershwin, Jennifer

Higdon and Henry Fillmorewill all berepresented in this

concert focused on American composers! Join musicians

from the Marine Band for an afternoon of fine music!

Sunday,October 20

at2p.m.

Chamber

Music Series

Open to the public!

FREE! No ticketsrequired!

TheLyceum: Alexandria’sHistory

Museum

201 S.Washington St.

Alexandria,VA

Moreinfo at: http://www.usafband.af.mil

Oct 24:Don’tmiss viola soloists from the Air Force Strings

perform works from 1919 by Hindemith, Bloch and Rebec-

ca Clarke.

Nov 7:Join members of the Ceremonial Brass forarecital

of works for trombone and trumpet. Enjoy pieces by Kent

Baker,Torelli, Ferroand Derek Bourgeois!

Thursdays at 7:30 p.m. -

Now through Nov 21, 2019

(no concert Oct 31)

Chamber Players

Series

Free parking at

venue. Metrostation

2blocks.

$20-$50

Columbia Heights Educational

Campus3360 16th St DC 20009.

Tickets&Info:Te l: (202) 360-3514

http://www.teatroliricodc.com

Some of the most lovable numbers of the Spanish lyric

repertoirealong with the witty and glamorousChateau

Margaux.Staged, with soloists, ballet and orchestra.

Sun Oct 27th at 5:30PM

Zarzuela

Chateau Margaux

&Anthology

Student discounts

$30 available

Washington National Cathedral

3101 WisconsinAve., NW

Cathedral.org

PostClassical Ensemble presentsafestival of music

celebrating contemporary Native American composers and

works inspired by the cultures of Native American nations.

Monday,October 21,

7:30 pm

Native American

Inspirations:

Chapel Concert

$10-$15 Students free

Fairfax High School

3501 Rebel Run, Fairfax

571-336-2322, http://www.fairfaxband.org

Composer Bruce Broughton premieres “A

SouthernJubilee”

Sat., October 26, 7:30pm

City of Fairfax Band

Originals

49th Season Chevy

Chase Concerts

Free

Chevy Chase Presbyterian Church

1Chevy Chase Circle NW

202-363-2202

Bluegrass at its best–guitar,banjo, mandolin and bass.

Lively picking and beautiful harmonies. Reception to meet

perfomers follows concert.

Seneca Rocks Sunday,October 27@4pm

MUSIC-JAZZ

$43 Adults 202-965-2000

$40 Senior

$10 Student

Dumbarton Concerts

Dumbarton United Methodist

Church

3133 Dumbarton St. NW

Washington, DC 20007

Dumbartonconcerts.org

Local award-winning jazz musician and his band, The

Movement, team up with the dazzling vocalist and

songwriter,Rochelle Rice. Join this exciting duo as they

connect the old with the new,sprinkling in originals and

arrangements alongside timeless hits from Dizzy Gillespie,

to StevieWonder,toSteely Dan.

Saturday,November 9,

8pm

Dumbarton Concerts

Presents

Mark G. Meadows

&The Movement

Featuring Rochelle Rice

MUSIC-ORCHESTRAL

Children ages 7-17

admitted free with

purchase of adult

ticket through the

Young and Free

program. Call to

reserve.

$35-$90

The Music Center at Strathmore

5301 Tuckerman Lane

North Bethesda, MD 20852

1-877-BSO-1444

http://www.BSOMUSIC.org

Violin phenom Stefan Jackiwreturns to the BSO led by

Austrian conductor David Danzmayr.This concert

illustrates whyVienna is widely heralded as the capital

of classical music, fromWebern’sdaring miniatures for

orchestra to the beautiful melodies of Schubert’s

“Unfinished” Symphony,fromMozart’s“Turkish”Violin

Concerto to the instantlyrecognizableBlueDanubewaltz.

Sat, October 26, 8:00 PM

BaltimoreSymphony

Orchestra

MozartViolin

Concerto

David Danzmayr,

conductor

OPERA

Ticket sales online

and at the door

240-230-7372

belcantanti.com

Gen Adm $40

Seniors $35

Students $15

Randolph Road Theatre

4010 Randolph Rd.

Silver Spring, MD

Verdi’sopera Rigoletto, aboutawomanizing duke and a

father’srevenge. Fully staged and in costume, with an

orchestra.

SATOCT 19 at 7:30 pm

Verdi’sRigoletto SUN OCT 20 at 3:00 pm

DANCE

$30--$48

GALA Theatre

3333 14th Street, NW

202-234-7174

http://www.galatheatre.org

Entresueño

Flamenco Aparicio Dance Company

Nov 7-10

Raíz de 4

Rafael Peral and Marisa Adame

From Spain Nov 14-17

Nov 7-10

Thurs-Sat at8pm

Sun at2pm

Nov 14 -17

Thurs-Sat at8pm

Sun at2pm

FUEGO

FLAMENCO XV

International Festival

Live music, original

costumes, and three

never-before-seen

ballets

$25-$ 100

The ShakespeareTheatre

610 FStreet NW,

Washington DC 20004

washingtonballet.org

202.547.1122

21st century ballet at its best: The ballet company of the

nation’scapital presents three world premiereballets by

acclaimed dance choreographers Annabelle Lopez Ochoa,

Jessica Lang, and John Heginbotham.

October 23-27

TheWashington Ballet

NEXTsteps

SeasonOpening

Producton

-(@ 06&B@ 8Q 8(@ O&5@"/ ;<8: HPP@H<:$ 7 .6RBH/ &R ;<8: # .8/"@I B@HB"&R@$ -6@:IK EC RQQR 7 NQRBH/ &R .8/"@I B@HB"&R@$ 2<&BH/K EC RQQR

7 -6@:BH/ &R .8/"@I B@HB"&R@$ NQRIK EC RQQR 7 ,@BR@:BH/ &R .8/"@I B@HB"&R@$ -6@:IK EC RQQR 7 -(6<:BH/ &R .8/"@I B@HB"&R@$ ,@BIK EC RQQR

7 -(6<:BH/ &R 41P<@::I B@HB"&R@$ ,@BIK EC RQQR 7 2<&BH/ &R ,@@%@RBI B@HB"&R@$ -6@:IK EC RQQR 7 .H86<BH/ &R .8/"@I B@HB"&R@$ 2<&BH/K EC RQQR

2Q< &R>Q<!H8&QR HFQ68 HB5@<8&:&R*K DH""$ LH/!QRB 9Q/@< CGCJAA?J?E'? Q< M&DQ"@ 0&BB@R: CGCJAA?J?A+E

-Q <@HD( H <@P<@:@R8H8&5@K DH""$ CGCJAA?J'GG) | *6&B@8QH<8:=3H:(PQ:8IDQ! 16 -2 898

S0

13

6-

6x

3.5

“Away from the

noise and bustle”

Discover great area neighborhoods

in “Where We Live,”

Saturdays in Real Estate.