they’re bored. For me, entertaining them
was not an option.” Dr Hingorany says
that if this happens, one has the right to
completely shut the person out. “Do not
send hate texts or emails and give them
a reason to think that ghosting you was
a good idea. In my opinion, don't give a
second chance easily after going through
such an experience, unless the person
really deserves it.”Cookie-jarring
If you’re his back-up plan, you’re
being cookie-jarred. A guy might not
necessarily like you but he’ll keep you
around as a fail-safe option, in case
his current relationship falls through.
You’re his comforting and warm cookie
in a jar for the times he’s starved of
romance, sex, or company. “This one guy
claimed he loved me but wouldn’t make
it official because he kept asking me to
hook up with him and I kept declining.
Later, I got to know he was already
seeing somebody else while pursuing
me,” shares 18-year-old bio-medical
engineering student Melissa Sebastian.FROM WIDENING
THIGH GAPS TO
PHOTOSHOPPING
JAWLINES,
KITTENFISHING IS
QUITE A COMMON
PHENOMENONHaving a wandering eye
is a huge red flagSLOW FADING:
An extension of ghosting, this
happens when someone slowly exits
your life. Communication and meet-
ups dwindle, coming
to a halt eventually.BENCHING:
Similar to breadcrumbing,
benching is when a person is
interested in you, but isn’t ready
to commit. He distances himself
from you, while seeing other
people. There’s a slight difference,
though. While breadcrumbing
involves giving you hope at intervals,
benching is far more bleak,
as you’re aware that he’s
letting go while you’re
stuck in a rut.GRANDE-ING:
Inspired by Ariana Grande’s
hit single Thank U, Next, this
trend is a healthy one that
encourages individuals to let go of
bitterness caused by a breakup and
move onto the next chapter, with
positivity. In the delightful pop
number, she addresses her exes and
thanks them for everything she’s
learned. Grande-ing is
all about being the bigger person
and strengthening your mental
health by replacing thoughts of
animosity and vengeance with
gratitude and acceptance.
Pretty neat!Kittenfishing
Kittenfishing involves painting a false
image of yourself on social media to
entice a potential partner. It’s basically
tweaking the truth physically, to be liked
by someone. From widening thigh gaps
to photoshopping jawlines, kittenfishing
is quite a common phenomenon copped
by both, the young and old in today’s
world where love is fleeting. “This showsthat you’re not comfortable in your skin
and think that if you put your real self
out there, you might not be accepted.
However, it’s imperative to remember
that no one wants to be with someone
with low self-esteem, which is the main
reason for changing the way you look
on social media. If you accept yourself
for the way you are and give the other
person a chance to accept you for who
you are, you have better chances of
finding true love. Be honest and open.
Nobody likes to be with a hypocrite, it
will backfire,” says Dr Batra.they’re bored. For me, entertaining them
was not an option.” Dr Hingorany says
that if this happens, one has the right to
completely shut the person out. “Do not
send hate texts or emails and give them
a reason to think that ghosting you was
a good idea. In my opinion, don't give a
second chance easily after going through
such an experience, unless the person
really deserves it.”
Cookie-jarring
If you’re his back-up plan, you’re
being cookie-jarred. A guy might not
necessarily like you but he’ll keep you
around as a fail-safe option, in case
his current relationship falls through.
You’re his comforting and warm cookie
in a jar for the times he’s starved of
romance, sex, or company. “This one guy
claimed he loved me but wouldn’t make
it official because he kept asking me to
hook up with him and I kept declining.
Later, I got to know he was already
seeing somebody else while pursuing
me,” shares 18-year-old bio-medical
engineering student Melissa Sebastian.
FROMWIDENING
THIGHGAPSTO
PHOTOSHOPPING
JAWLINES,
KITTENFISHINGIS
QUITEA COMMON
PHENOMENONHaving a wandering eye
is a huge red flagSLOW FADING:
An extension of ghosting, this
happens when someone slowly exits
your life. Communication and meet-
ups dwindle, coming
to a halt eventually.BENCHING:
Similar to breadcrumbing,
benching is when a person is
interested in you, but isn’t ready
to commit. He distances himself
from you, while seeing other
people. There’s a slight difference,
though. While breadcrumbing
involves giving you hope at intervals,
benching is far more bleak,
as you’re aware that he’s
letting go while you’re
stuck in a rut.GRANDE-ING:
Inspired by Ariana Grande’s
hit single Thank U, Next, this
trend is a healthy one that
encourages individuals to let go of
bitterness caused by a breakup and
move onto the next chapter, with
positivity. In the delightful pop
number, she addresses her exes and
thanks them for everything she’s
learned. Grande-ing is
all about being the bigger person
and strengthening your mental
health by replacing thoughts of
animosity and vengeance with
gratitude and acceptance.
Pretty neat!Kittenfishing
Kittenfishing involves painting a false
image of yourself on social media to
entice a potential partner. It’s basically
tweaking the truth physically, to be liked
by someone. From widening thigh gaps
to photoshopping jawlines, kittenfishing
is quite a common phenomenon copped
by both, the young and old in today’s
world where love is fleeting. “This showsthat you’re not comfortable in your skin
and think that if you put your real self
out there, you might not be accepted.
However, it’s imperative to remember
that no one wants to be with someone
with low self-esteem, which is the main
reason for changing the way you look
on social media. If you accept yourself
for the way you are and give the other
person a chance to accept you for who
you are, you have better chances of
finding true love. Be honest and open.
Nobody likes to be with a hypocrite, it
will backfire,” says Dr Batra.