2019-10-01 Cosmopolitan

More roaring,

less radio

silence.

Dear men,

please be

louder

in bed

Sincerely, women. By CARINA HSIEH

A close-to-climaxing

“Fuuuuu...” is

more than welcome.

Everyone wants to be
told they’re good at
sex. And there’s no
better way to shout out
how much I turn you
on than, well, actu-
ally shouting. I’m here
today on behalf of all
women to say: audibly
lose your shit, sir.
I’m not saying that
women need verbal
hand-holding or lame
affirmations in order
to enjoy ourselves.
And I’m definitely not
advocating for forced
“You’re doing great,
sweetie!” lines to be

tossed around during

hookups. But c’mon:

If I’m blowing

your damn mind,

allow yourself

a primal noise

here and there,

a grunt, or even

a close-to-climaxing

“Fuuuuu....”

Look, I wouldn’t

bring this up if it

weren’t such a wide-

spread issue. But it

is. A recent Cosmo

survey found that

85 percent of women

wish their male

noise is low risk, high

reward. Studies

show that both men

and women get more

aroused watching XXX

vids with the sound

on than by looking

at NSFW photos,

says Candice Smith,

cofounder of the sex

subscription box ser-

vice KinkKit.

Talking sexy also

releases endorphins

in your brain, giving

you a “natural high”

during sex, explains

Madison Eubanks, a

clinical psychiatrist

and relationship coun-

selor for EndThrive.

Honestly, when

you think about it, so

many species exist

because of mating

calls. And we’re ani-

mals too—it revs us up

to *hear* that our

guy is in heat.

Dare I even

suggest you...

use your words?

Attempt a “you’re

the hottest thing

I’ve ever seen” or

“I’ve never wanted

you more”? I’m not

picky. Even “Yes!”

works. Just moan it

like you mean it.

partners were more

vocal during sex, and

62 percent say they’re

having to carry most

of the sex soundtrack

solo right now.

If you need some

incentive to pipe up,

know that making

lust

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