Drum – 22 August 2019

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STRONG WOMEN
August is Women’s Month, and one

woman who inspires me is Caster
Semenya. Even though she has con-
stantly faced difficulty and oppo sition,
she is still standing strong.

Strong women don’t consider kind-
ness a weakness, rather they see it as
a very necessary part of their being

which helps them to connect with
others emotionally – and they build
others up rather than tear them down. 
Strong women don’t use their egos

for evil, but for good. They see others
as their brothers and sisters and treat
them as such.

Strong women don’t depend on
others for their happiness, they create
it. If you’re a strong woman, you don’t
let other people’s feelings get you

down.
You also don’t let your own inner
turmoil run your life. You rise above
and makethe best of this beautiful

journey.
MASEDIFUSI,JOHANNESBURG

HEALINGANDHOPE

I was left shaking after reading the
story of Olwethu Twalo (I was violated,
15 August). My heart goes out to him
and his family in the aftermath of his

vicious attack on the eve of the holiest
of days, Christmas Day. I’m relieved he
is healing, and that he’s sharing his

terrible ordeal to help others heal too.
MERIDETH SIBAYENI, EMAIL

LISTEN TO YOUR KIDS

Things have changed drastically since
today’s parents were children. Our
parents rarely communicated with us

to see things from our perspective.
Today children are misled by what
they see online. Effective communi-
cation will build a strong bond and

help children to open up. Our children
need us to listen to them to try to see
things from their perspective. That’s
the only way we can advise them well.

ABIGAIL LEDUBUKO, EMAIL

DJ Fresh couldn’t hold back the tears

when he received a surprise visit from

Bonang Matheba on his first day at radio

947, where he started hosting his new

afternoon-driveshow.DRUMreaders

sharedhisexcitement.

Fresh is a brand and will always have

a following.Hisvoiceis magic.

MALETEMANGOLO

It’s hard not to love Queen B. She is so

amazing.

NAKAMPERAMAFALO

I visited him too, but nobody noticed

myvisit.Lifeain’tfair.

T-BONENEPS

It is nice to see people supporting

each other, celebrities or not. It’s a

nice thing to do. Thank you, my

queen.Keepshiningguys.

PATRICIAMODAU

This show is bigger than 5FM’s Fresh

Drive.

VIKTAVICTORNGOBEN

I miss him on Metro, though. The

breakfast show won’t be the same

withouthim.

BABALWAMLONYENI

She did it for her reality show,

LOL. Anyway, good spirit,

QueenB.

DUMISANESIMANGO

Howsweet,Bonang.

MUSOKAMGOBHOZIJAMILE

Everybody loves DJ Fresh! 

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trial finally ended and the man was given a 12-year sentence for rape and two years for housebreaking.“What kept me going during the trial

was the hope that he would go away for what he did to me,” Olwethu says.“I thought even if he only got two years

he would know what he did was wrong. I sleep easier now knowing my rapist is in a cell, that he is off the streets and can-

not harm anyone else.” men who have had similar experiences “can find their strength, through my sto-He is sharing his story now so other

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