Advice
LET’S TALK
ABOUT SEX
Jodie Molloy
answers
your most
intimate
questions
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Q
My husband is such a
great dad and works so
hard to ensure my kids and
I have everything we could
ever want. I want to show
him how much I appreciate
him for Father’s Day. Got any
cheeky ideas for something
to blow him away?
●Grateful Wife, LinwoodA
I’m guessing you’re
not talking a hardware
store voucher? I think that
it’s really nice to take a
moment to appreciate the
good things or people in
your life and let’s be honest,
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in control of.Q
I’ve met a man on Tinder
who seems lovely and
very normal, but he’s just
revealed that he has a deep
passion for bondage! I don’t
know if this means he’s
disturbed or I’m vanilla!
●Plain Jane, AucklandA
Well, loving bondage
does certainly not mean
you are disturbed and not
loving it doesn’t make you
vanilla. But here’s the thing:
Maybe you think that if you
try out some bondage play,
you’re suddenly going to
cross over and turn all Fifty
Shades. In reality, “deep
passion” for bondage usually
implies a lifestyle and the
kind of fetish that’s not likely
able to be negotiated away
for love. Neither of you should
give up an inch of your
preferred sexual territory. If it
were me, I’d cut the leatherSTOCKUPYOURADULTTOYBOX!
ties at this early stage and get
back to swiping.Q
I want to build a dungeon
in my house, but I’m too
embarrassed to consult a
builder about it. What should
I do?
●Awkward, MosgielA
I see where you’re going
with this. Nobody wants
to announce their sexual
preferences to strangers
(well, most people don’t),
so to get your own private
space going requires some
DIY know-how. That means
you may have to give up
some of your privacy if you
need help from someone
with professional building
expertise. But that said, this
comes down to how much
you want to have a basement
of, er, torturous delights?
Because if it’s something
you can’t live without, you
should just embrace it. You
need to be you, even if that
means repurposing your
rumpus room with shackled
walls. Personally, I’d just
own it and enjoy some bald
truths with your tradie –
and even if you’re blushing
on the inside, the worst bit
will be the first meeting.
Beyond that, you could
always choose a confident
friend to have the first chat
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