38 S MAGAZINE ★ 11 AUGUST 2019
Sex matters Doctor, doctor
Dr Rosemary Leonard MBE is a GP with many years’
experience working in London’s top teaching hospitalsPHOTOGRAPH: RCD1I’ve had an NHS health check
and been told I am prediabetic.
Does this mean I will become
diabetic and is there any
medication I can take?
Doctors use glycosylated
haemoglobin levels, or HbA1c,
to show what an average blood
glucose level has been over the
past few months. A level of
under six per cent is normal
and a level of 6.5 or over
means you are diabetic. A level
between six and 6.4 per cent isknown as prediabetes. Being
overweight is usually to blame,
so getting your weight back to a
healthy level is often all that is
required to get blood sugar
levels down. There is no need
for prediabetic people to take
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delighted he is so creative, but
wouldn’t he be better taking his
talents to a wider audience? Can
you help him to find open mic
opportunities in your area? I
suspect, at the moment, that
you’re treading on eggshells in
order not to upset him. But once
you’re more established as a
couple you’ll be able to tell him
when it is, and isn’t appropriate
for him to strike up a song.woman. She would be horrified to
see my boyfriend with his guitar
in hand and my ex-husband would
laugh his head off. How do I
dissuade him from pushing this
without hurting his feelings?
Your boyfriend needs to hear that
your daughter’s wedding is her
affair and it’s up to her and her
fiancé how the day runs. Make it
clear that you won’t put her on the
spot by even suggesting he takes
centre stage. As for his homeContact Jane at S Magazine, Second Floor,
Northern & Shell Building, 10 Lower Thames
Street, London EC3R 6EN or email jane.
[email protected]. Jane regrets that
she cannot reply personally to your letters.unique spirit he is. If he genuinely
embarrasses and frustrates you,
then do you need to find someone
more on your wavelength? Don’t
throw away a good thing for the
sake of your pride.to grime music. At the moment
he has a particularly silly haircut
and I know that my friends laugh
about him. I tell him that he
needs to accept himself for the
middle-aged man he is today, but
he continues to fight the tides of
time. He’s not a millionaire rock
star so how can he stand to walk
around looking ridiculous?
Fortunately, we live in a free
society where individuals can
express themselves. The fact is
that your partner isn’t hurting
anyone with his unique style. If
he’s not bothered by people
making comments or taking a
second look, then you have no
choice but to accept him for thebecause she feels you may still
be in contact with, or have feelings
for, your secret lover? Hopefully,
over time, she’ll start to trust you
again. But you need to reassure
her that something similar will
never happen again, while also
establishing that you refuse to
be held captive. Does this
relationship have a long-term
future? Maybe you need to think
about that.It’s time my par tner
acted his real age
My partner refuses to let go
of his younger self. He’s still
wearing high fashion and listeningMy feelings towards my best
friend have changed. I want
to kiss her and touch her and
I think about her all the time
in a sexual way. We’re going
on holiday with her parents to
their place in Europe. We’ll be
sharing the same room and
I don’t know how I’ll react to
being in such a confined space
with her. I’ve known her for so
long but don’t know how to
tell her how I feel.
I think you should enjoy this
holiday with your friend and see
how you get on on a day-to-daybasis. Don’t reveal your
feelings or put any kind of
pressure on her, because if
she doesn’t feel the same then
she could feel uncomfortable.
Holidays can be difficult and
intense at the best of times.
If you still feel attracted to her
when you get back, then pick
an appropriate moment to
speak, but only do so if you feel
she would be receptive to such
a confession. Trust your
instincts, be aware of how she
treats you and how she talks
about other love interests.His ridiculous songs strike the wrong chord
My new boyfriend has revealed
himself to be something of a
songwriter and poet. Recently,
he’s started singing me his songs
and reading me his prose. I’m
sorry, but I find his pretentious,
clichéd ramblings, excruciatingly
embarrassing. It’s bad enough
indulging him in the home, but
now he’s asked if he can perform
at my daughter’s wedding. This is
so awkward because my daughter
is a strong-willed, opinionatedWhy can’t she put
my affair behind us?
My partner can’t stand me having
any kind of life away from her. At
parties she clings to me like a
limpet and I’m discouraged from
going out with old friends. I know
she feels vulnerable because
I cheated on her last year. I’ve
said sorry and want to put it all
behind us but she’s becoming
more paranoid by the week. How
do I get my freedom back?
Despite saying “sorry” your
partner can’t get past your
betrayal. Have you explained to
her why you felt inclined to cheat
in the first place? Is she paranoidContact Dr Leonard at S Magazine,
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Street, London EC3R 6EN, or email dr.
[email protected]. Dr Leonard
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letters. Read her column every Tuesday in
the Daily Express.Jane O’Gorman