tumhari umar ho gayi hai, abhi kitna
sochoge? For most in India, 33 is
a great age to get married. But not
for me. I still have time. If I’ve not
hidden my relationship. Why will
I hide my marriage yaar?
Are you waiting to get your sister
Anhsula married first?
That would be a nice organic
thing to do. But it’s not so easy
to pinpoint that. If she wants to,
I’d be happy. If she says, ‘No,
I want to wait for a bit’, I’d be okay
with that too. She believes in the
comfortable. You recoil when there’s
a certain gandagi that comes with
the territory. When people purposely
irk you by saying, writing or asking
things. There hasn’t been any of that.
Where the paps are concerned, we
give them photos when walking in
and out of a place. We talk to them.
There’s a certain ease. I told them,
‘Please don’t sit under the house
and make it seem like we’re hiding
when we’re not’. I don’t want my
neighbours to be disturbed. I don’t
want her neighbours to be disturbed.
We’re not doing anything wrong.
I don’t want that story being
conveyed that we’re hiding, when
we’re not. They understood that.
Are you getting married?
I’m not getting married. I understand
why there are speculations. In my
own house people ask tu shaadi kab
kar raha hai? It’s an organic Indian
question. If you’re with someone
for even three days, the marriage
question pops up. Shaadi karlo,
They’re happy. That’s the reason
I’ve been able to come out. There’s
genuine happiness for me. I’ve been
through hell. I’ve been through a
roller-coaster... from the age of 10-11
till 33 today. My parents separated
when I was around 11 years old.
Today I’ve some stability in my life
and if someone gives me happiness,
my family won’t be against it. I’m
genuinely happy. That’s why a Friday
at the box- office doesn’t decide
my life. Three years back, I’d have
been like, ‘I’m dying! What’s gonna
happen?” Today, I’m relaxed.How has your relationship with your
dad, Boney Kapoor, evolved after
Sridevi’s passing away?
It’s always been good. We haven’t
had the need to pick up the pieces
of our relationship. If it wasn’t that
good, I wouldn’t have been able to
take such a big leap of faith. But
I guess, he’s emotionally closer to
me today. He’s also trying to be a
hands-on father. Not with me alone
but with all the kids. He’s learnt
to prioritise us along with work,
which is nice. At 65 plus, being a
friend to your child is not easy. But,
the fact that he wakes up and tries
everyday... I give him full marks
for that. It’s going well so far. We
have our moments. We have our
difference of opinion in certain
things. But that’s normal.The way you stood by him when Sridevi
passed away was truly commendable.
I just remembered my mother (the
late Mona Kapoor) at that time. She
loved my father and would have
wanted me to be there with him.
The byproduct of that is that
I got to meet two girls (Janhvi
and Khushi Kapoor), who’re
actually not so different from
me. In life, you hold on to a lot of
questions, there’s a lot of confusion,
dilemma... you have so many things
that are not answered. Then comes
a moment where you just learn how
to let go and begin anew. You think
why carry the baggage? You’re like
chodo yaar, let’s move ahead, let’s
start again. It wasn’t easy but it
was the right thing to do. institution of marriage. Just as I do.
Despite whatever we’ve seen in our
lives, we both have faith that marriage
is good. Let her make something
out of herself. She’s focusing on her
work right now. Hence I’ve not had
the marriage conversation with her.
(Smiles) Thanks for reminding me,
I’ll speak to her today.Is Malaika okay with waiting?
If I could answer on her behalf... the
thing is, we both have to still discover
each other in a public space and
enjoy the comfort of being a couple.
We need that ease. We need to take
our mind off this pressure of getting
married. Sometimes, you just need
to be in a relationship. You need to
live it; you need to enjoy it for what
it is, rather than what it should be
according to people. We’re at ease
with each other. I guess. it should be
left at that without going into details.How happy is your family with your
relationship?With Janhvi, Anshula, Boney Kapoor and KhushiWith Malaika AroraI’M NOT GETTING MARRIED.
MALAIKA AND I HAVE TO STILL
DISCOVER EACH OTHER IN
A PUBLIC SPACE AND ENJOY
THE COMFORT OF BEING
A COUPLE... WE NEED TO TAKE
OUR MIND OFF THIS PRESSURE
OF GETTING MARRIED