38 S MAGAZINE ★ 28 JULY 2019
Sex matters
PHOTOGRAPH: RCD1Our agony aunt gets to the heart of your relationship problems JANE O’GORMAN’S
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charge and last approximately four minutes.visitors can be overwhelming after
the birth of a baby. It could be that
she struggled to get pregnant or
she is coping with some form
of postnatal depression now. Be
the bigger person because I don’t
believe this is personal. Tell your
son that you’d love to get to
know your grandson but will
leave it up to him to organise
the next visit. He knows that
you were a good mother, but
needs to support his wife, too.future invitations in the diary, so
I’m very tempted to cut off all
further contact. I don’t think my
besotted son would even notice.
Please keep calm and just see
what happens in the coming
months. I get the impression that
your daughter-in-law is trying to get
through every day the best she
can. If she is feeling exhausted
and stressed, then she’s entitled
to limit visits and call the shots. I
know from my own experience thatContact Jane at S Magazine, Second Floor,
Northern & Shell Building, 10 Lower Thames
Street, London EC3R 6EN or email jane.
[email protected]. Jane regrets that
she cannot reply personally to your letters.will be plenty of time to see and
support his children when you’re
back for holidays. As for him being
lonely, encourage him to make
new friends and be proactive in
getting back on his feet again.walked out on him last year and
he’s been in pieces ever since.
She took his children and he
relies on me for lifts to her house.
He says he’s proud of me and
that I should follow my dream,
but how can I enjoy myself
knowing that he is struggling
and alone? Our parents always
taught us to stick together.
Your little brother is a fully grown
man now. It’s very sad that his life
has taken a challenging turn, but
his family arrangements are not
your responsibility. Besides, if he’s
encouraging you to go, then go.
Life is for grabbing with both
hands and you may not get this
opportunity again. I’m sure therethis is really not worth falling out
over. Yes, it’s annoying that the girl
seems to be provoking you into a
reaction, but she’s very young and
it could be that she’s angry or
jealous that her father is marrying
again. Bite your lip, enjoy your day
and have a good old laugh about
the photographs down the line.
She needs to realise that you are
a decent, reasonable person whom
she can trust and, hopefully, love.Should I stay or
should I go?
I’ve been offered a fantastic job
overseas but feel guilty about
leaving my little brother. His wifeI’ve only seen my baby grandson
three times. He was born in
February but I wasn’t allowed to
visit until April. Even then I was
told to wear a surgical mask,
which my daughter-in-law
provided. I’ve never held or
touched him. All I’m permitted
to do is stand at the door of his
bedroom and observe him asleep
in his cot. It’s ridiculous. What
does she think I’ll do – sneeze
all over the child? There are noMy lover can’t decide between
her boyfriend and me. She will
not identify as bisexual; she
simply says that at the
moment she sleeps with both
a man and a woman. I’m
confused because she swears
she loves me but says he is an
important part of her life, too.
I’ve met him and he’s
not worthy of her; I find him
vague and unimpressive.
How can she tolerate him?
I suggest you take a step back
and start protecting your heart.
At the moment your lover isbouncing between her male
lover’s bed and yours. She is
the centre of attention – but
what about you? Tell her that
you refuse to compete because
you know your own worth. Take
yourself out of her orbit and
ask her to contact you again if
she’s interested in seeing you
on an exclusive basis. She
needs to understand that you
will not be in competition with
other lovers. If you fear she is
getting some kind of thrill out
of baiting you, it may be time to
reconsider your compatibility.My daughter-in-law is so unreasonable
Her blue hair has
me seeing red
My fiancé’s 16-year-old daughter
has dyed her hair bright blue. She
looks ridiculous and is going to
ruin every photograph taken at our
upcoming wedding. She’s done
this deliberately and I wouldn’t be
surprised if her bitter mother put
her up to it. My fiancé says to
stop making a fuss but I think
he should be tougher, don’t you?
I think he should insist she dyes
it back before our September
ceremony. How else is she ever
going to take me seriously?
Bright blue hair may not fit in with
your wedding colour scheme, butContact Dr Leonard at S Magazine,
Sunday Express, Second Floor, Northern
and Shell Building, 10 Lower Thames
Street, London EC3R 6EN, or email dr.
[email protected]. Dr Leonard
regrets that she cannot reply personally to
letters. Read her column every Tuesday in
the Daily Express.Jane O’Gorman
Doctor, doctor
Dr Rosemary Leonard MBE is a GP with many years’
experience working in London’s top teaching hospitalsAt a recent smear test, the
nurse found a polyp in my
cervix. She told me it was
nothing to worry about and
a GP referred me to have it
removed. Even though my
smear result was normal and I
have no symptoms, I’m worried.
Cervical polyps are caused by
an overgrowth of the normal
tissue lining the cervix or womb.
It is extremely rare for polyps to
be cancerous or indicate any
serious underlying problemand, especially as your smear
was normal, it’s highly unlikely
that there’s anything to worry
about. Had there been concern,
your GP would have fast-tracked
your hospital appointment. Most
polyps can be removed during
an outpatient appointment.