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ACROSS

1 “__ your age!”

4 Many 4WD

autos

8 Oafish

14 Feel badly about

15 Slightly

16 10 0-lawmaker

group

17 *Secret stage

exit

19 Gets ready

to drive

20 Te mpe sch.

21 Out of the wind

23 A, in many orgs.

24 Frosts, as

cupcakes

25 *Forte of Savion

Glover and

Gregory Hines

28 Comes clean?

30 Persuaded

31 Northern

Iraqi city

32 Indian flatbread

34 Botch the job

35 *Impractical

hope

39 Brief writer,

briefly

42 Blew away

43 Pick up the tab

47 Low-cost

product

50 Midsize Chevy

51 *Pass/fail

metaphor

54 Cruise stopover

55 Night in Paris

56 Array in a

British pantry

57 Lobster dinner

accessory

58 Become fond of

60 ’70s covert

White House

intelligence

group ... and,

in a more

conventional

sense, a hint

to the starts

of the answers

to starred

clues

63 Singer who

was 15 in 2009

when his debut

EP “My World”

was released

64 “Downton

Abbey” title

65 Droop

66 Passions

67 Salon colors

68 “Inside the

NBA” network

DOWN

1 Sotheby’s

showing

2 Liqueur named

for an island

3 Dollhouse

dishes

4 Downcast

5 WWII subs

6 It’s tuned an

octave higher

than a cello

7 Penicillin target

8 Omaha winter

hrs.

9 Womack

of country

10 Worldwide

cultural org.

11 Enormous

12 Major

upset, say

13 Slangy “Sure”

18 Pecs builder

22 Name of

eight English

kings

24 PC pioneer

26 Tops

27 Watchdog

warning

29 New Haven

collegian

32 Most recent

33 Fruit drink

suffix

36 Pliers unit

37 Bill-filled

device

38 Onetime

Dr Pepper rival

39 Apt. coolers

40 Vanishing point?

41 Like many

veteran

professors

44 Least

challenging

45 High-fiber

Kellogg’s cereal

46 __ kwondo

48 With hands

on hips

49 Wizard with a scar

50 Confident reply

52 Cleaned with a

cloth

53 Woodwork

pattern

58 Fighters’ org.

59 “Grey’s Anatomy”

sets, briefly

61 D.C. United org.

62 Police dept.

rank

LA TIMES CROSSWORD By Mark McClain

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kidspost

BY DARA ELASFAR

P

resident Lyndon John-

son couldn’t resist play-

ing jokes on friends dur-

ing his summer vaca-

tion. While taking a spin

around his ranch in Te xas, John-

son w ould drive his guests down a

hill... and into a lake! Little did

they know, the president had a

rare c ar that could f loat.

Not all presidents were prank-

sters, but all of them have needed

vacations, or time off to let loose

and have fun, with their families

and friends. Before the railroad,

presidents would take days off and

go b ack to their homes and planta-

tions to either check on their farms

or just unwind.

“Washington, D.C., in August

isn’t t he most comfortable place to

be,” says Lindsay Chervinsky, a

historian at the White House His-

torical Association. Presidents

“were looking for a more comfort-

able place to spend the hottest

months in Washington.”

Thomas Jefferson would go to

Monticello, his estate near Char-

lottesville, Virginia. The house

was perched on a m ountaintop, so

the breeze made it a welcome get-

away for his family. Abraham Lin-

coln and his family spent several

months just three miles from the

White House. They stayed in a

cottage at the Old Soldiers’ Home,

a quiet spot in Northeast Washing-

ton.

When trains became accessible,

presidents could take longer holi-

days and go back to their home

states or other destinations.

Sometimes they brought their

pets. Rebecca, the pet raccoon of

President Calvin Coolidge’s family,

would travel with the president by

train to their vacation home in

Black Hills, South D akota.

“She was a bit of a hooligan,”

Chervinsky said. “She would es-

cape, and Secret Service would

have to spend hours trying to get

her b ack.”

Journalists began to follow

presidents on their getaways

when the public was intrigued by

Grover Cleveland’s new wife, the

young, pretty Frances Cleveland.

Advisers and aides tagged

along because t he president has to

be available to deal with a crisis at

any time.

“The working vacation really

started with Theodore Roosevelt,

and that was because the tele-

graph and the telephone were

available as resources,” Chervin-

sky said.

That doesn’t mean presidents

haven’t made time for fun.

Roosevelt w ould make sure he fin-

ished working at 4 p.m. to enjoy

the outdoors with his kids when

they stayed in Oyster Bay, New

York. They would go hiking, fish-

ing and rowing.

John Kennedy’s family enjoyed

the outdoors, too, especially the

water.

The Kennedy family created a

game called “dragging” for their

long weekends on Cape Cod in

Massachusetts. They w ould attach

a life vest to the back of the presi-

dential yacht and drag three peo-

ple holding the vest — including

sometimes the president. Whoev-

er held on the longest without

going underwater would win the

game. But everyone who played

had a true vacation experience.

After all, it would be hard to think

about Washington when you’re

getting a blast of saltwater in the

face.

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Presidents

get a taste

of freedom

on vacation

CHIP SAYS

Presidents often used official yachts for vacationing

between 1880 and 1977. President Jimmy Carter

ended the practice and sold the last yacht, the

104-foot wooden USS Sequoia, in 1977.

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CECIL STOUGHTON/WHITE HOUSE HISTORICAL ASSOCIATION

President Lyndon Johnson, left, would pull a prank on his guests at

his ranch in Texas by driving them into a lake. (Don’t worry, the car

could float.) John Kennedy, with the first lady and their children in

Massachusetts, enjoyed outdoorsy vacations.

WHITE HOUSE HISTORICAL ASSOCIATION

First lady Grace Coolidge holds her pet

raccoon, Rebecca, who went on

vacation with Calvin Coolidge’s family.

Theodore Roosevelt, shown at right in

Yosemite, could work on vacation with

the use of the telegraph and telephone.

Hi, Carolyn:

Recently, I had a

very serious

cancer scare.

I didn’t t ell my

friends and family

because I didn’t

want them to be

scared until I knew

if it was r eal. But

the result was that I spent six

months feeling v ery anxious and,

worse, almost a s though I were

lying to them. Not to mention that

it was very lonely going through it

by myself.

Support f or me vs. ( maybe)

unnecessary fear for them...

should I tell them if there’s a next

time? Would you?

— J.

J. : Wouldn’t y ou?

You’ve made a clear case f or

telling: You were scared, alone,

needing support; you were lying

by omission to people y ou loved.

Very p ersuasive.

And what case did you make for

the other side, for withholding t he

information — that you didn’t

worry them unnecessarily? Maybe

you accomplished that, and

certainly y ou meant w ell.

But if you w ere out of sorts

during those six m onths — as you

likely were, unless you’re

unusually s toic — then chances

are your inner c ircle w as worried

anyway: that you weren’t y ourself,

that you weren’t sharing

something, t hat you were upset

with them personally. A fter all,

they had no information to help

them understand your b ehavior.

People faced with blanks tend to

fill them in using their darkest

imaginations.

These a re mostly technical

points, though. The best

argument f or sharing information

is love itself. Have you e ver heard

after the fact that someone you

care about w as suffering and kept

it to him- o r herself? Wasn’t y our

first reaction “Why d idn’t y ou tell

me — I would have been h appy to

help”?

You describe the possibility of

others’ being “scared” a s if feelings

exist in isolation. But had you

notified people, they could have

felt worried and... a ffectionate

toward you, useful to you and

grateful for the chance to help, all

at t he same time — and of course

elated when t he scare was over.

The best-case scenario of loving

someone isn’t a n unbroken

stream of easy, happy feelings.

The best case is intimacy: the

sense o f being i ncluded,

important, close.

If you ever don’t w ant t o share

news like this for your own

emotional benefit, then that’s

your prerogative, and certainly

some people will vanish o n you

the moment you do share. It’s n ot

all hugs and kittens.

But when d eciding what to tell

others, don’t t ry t o manage their

feelings for them based on your

own assumptions. Tell w hat you

want to tell and trust them to

respond as they wish.

Hi, Carolyn: D oes inviting a

family member or friend to a

couple’s wedding shower

necessarily entitle that person to a

wedding invitation? The couple

are planning a small wedding a t a

resort in a different state.

However, we think some of the

couple’s family members a nd

friends might enjoy taking part in

a pre-wedding s hower and

wouldn’t be upset at n ot receiving

an invitation to an out-of-state

wedding. Are the “rules” f or

destination weddings more

flexible?

— Perplexed Party P lanner

Perplexed Party Planner: A

shower invitation that isn’t

followed by a wedding invitation

says to people, “You’re not

important enough to make the

wedding cut, but we’ll take your

gifts.” I t’s not a good look.

It’s a lso easy t o fix: Plan a party

for everyone a fter the wedding, t o

celebrate the marriage w ith them.

Wr ite to Carolyn Hax at

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Fe w pros in keeping health scare secret

Carolyn

Hax

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