Dilemmas
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#thatfeelingwhen...YOU’RE
SUDDENLY THE ONLY SINGLE
ONE IN YOUR CREW. AND NOW
WITH FOOTBALL GAMES, WEEK-
END TRIPS TO THE CORN MAZE
AND THE HOMECOMING DANCE
LOOMING, YOU’RE FEELING
STUCK IN YOUR SOLO STATUS
MORE THAN EVER.
DEAL WITH IT: Here’s the thing:
It *is* possible to fly solo and still
soak up all the fun. Just because
you’re single doesn’t mean you
have to miss out on making
amazing memories. Get comfort-
able being a third wheel from
time to time and happily hang
out with your pals. Jealous of your
coupled-up crew? Seek out other
friends who are also on their own
so you’re not always the odd one
out. Another option? Ask your
girls to play Cupid. After all, who
better to set you up with a brand
new sweetie than the buds who
know you best?friends after you break up with
someone, you *do* have to be
civil. This starts by taking the
high road whenever you see
them (so no shooting side-eye
from across the caf). And when
you’re working together? Find
some middle ground by keeping
personal matters separate from
your agenda at hand. No matter
what, resist the urge to bring
up old feelings, rehash events
or contemplate getting back
together. What’s in the past is in
the past for a reason.#thatfeelingwhen...THE SAME
CUTIE HAS BEEN FLIRTY WITH
YOU SINCE JUNE, BUT STILL
HASN’T ASKED YOU OUT. WHILE
ALL OF THEIR SNAPS, DMS AND
TEXTS HINT THAT THEY LIKE
YOU, IRL THEY’RE LESS THAN
LOVEY-DOVEY.DEAL WITH IT: The flirting was
fun for the summer, but now
you’re ready for more than just
the LOL GIFs they randomly text
you or the constant flame emoji
comments on your IG pics. Since
you’re both back at school, use
this time to take things to the
next level. Sit next to them at
lunch, pair up for an English
project or see if they’ll meet you
for fro-yo after school on Friday.
The messaging is pretty clear
that they’re into you: It just may
be that *you* have to make that
first move to take things from
online to real time.#thatfeelingwhen...YOUR GIRL
AND HER BAE BROKE UP RIGHT
BEFORE THE FIRST DAY—AND
SHE’S MAKING YOU CHOOSE
SIDES. NOW, IN ADDITION TOASKING YOU TO DELETE EVERY
PIC OF THEM FROM *YOUR*
FEED, SHE’S INFORMED YOU
THAT YOU CAN NEVER, EVER
SPEAK TO THEM AGAIN.
DEAL WITH IT: There are plenty of
solid reasons not to stay friends
with your babe’s former flame—
but an ultimatum from your
bestie is *not* one of them. Not
only is it unfair for a friend to
put you in that position, it’s also
unhealthy for her to dictate who
you can and can’t hang out with.
However, you do have to consider
how crushed she is and what her
friendship means to you. Ask
yourself if you’d be OK not hav-
ing your girl in your life (because
that’s likely the outcome if you
stay tight with her ex). If you
decide to keep hanging out with
her former flame, go for it—just
don’t try to hide it from her.