Woman UK – 22 July 2019

Solve your familydilemmaswithexpertadvice

Ifyoudon’tseea

futuretogether,it’s

time to see a solicitor

Ask SUZIE

Hismindgamesareturningnasty

Ask the

EXPERTS

Suziesays

A

Whateveryourdebts,I seenoreason

whyyoushouldstayina miserable,

unwillingmarriage,especiallyone

whereheseemstofeelhecantakea breakwhenever

hewants.Seea solicitoratonce.Somesolicitorsoffer

a shortinterviewthatallowsyouenoughtimetogeta

lotofquestionsansweredfora fixedfeeofaslittleas

£10.Someevenoffersurgerieswitha one-offfree

interview.Butmakesureyoutalktoonewhois a member

of Resolution who will not railroad you into conflict.

Q

I’vebeenbestfriendswith

thismanforagesandwe’ve

alwaysbeenclose.Recently

he’schangedandissometimes

nastyandtriestoknockmy

confidence.Thistimehe’sreally

gonetotown.I caughthim

watchingmeinthemirrordoing

myhair.Thenhetoldmeheknows

I wanttobea manandweshould

gotoa gaybar,I shouldpretend

to be a man dressed as a woman

andpulla gayman.WhenI said

hewascrazy,hesaidI wasin

denial.What’sgoingoninhishead?

Theterriblethingishe’snowgot

meallconfusedaboutmyown

sexuality.Couldhebe right?

Suziesays

A

Well,he’sbeenreading

uponthepsychobabble,

hasn’the?Soinstead

ofdenial,maybeyoucould

discussprojection– whenone

personputsintoanother

person’smouththethings

theywanttosay.It couldbe

yourfriendwhohasworries

oversexuality.Or,ofcourse,

he’sjustplayingsillymind

games.Besupportiveif it’s

theformer– tellhimtotake

a hike if it’s the latter.

I WANTTOMAKEA LIFE

WITHOUTMYHUSBAND

Q

I’vefallenfora colleagueandwetalkand

havea laughandwe’vehadtheoccasional

kissingsession.We’rebothmarried,butin

nameonly.He’stoldhiswifehewantstoleaveher,

andI thinkshe’sseeingsomeoneelsetoo,andI

hopethismeanshewillwanttoseemoreofme.

I can’tgeta divorcefrommyhusbandasdueto

heavyfinancialcommitmentswewillhaveto

staytogetheruntilitissortedout.Myhusband

hasanotherwomanhelovesandstayswithat

weekends.HespentChristmaswithherandher

familyandI wouldhavelovedtoseemyboyfriend

justonceovertheholidays,butI havebeentold

thatif I bringanymanbacktothehouseI willbe

in serious trouble. How can I get out of this mess?

I’M TOOSCARED

TOMEETA MAN

Q

I’msingleandlonely.Myfriends

areallmarriedorengaged.IfI

meeta man,I’mtooscaredtoget

toknowthemasI’vebeenletdownin

thepastsooften.I’vebeentryingto

finda friendtogoonholidaywith.The

friendI wentwithlastyearturnedout

tobea disaster.I’ma veryloyalfriend

butI’vefoundwomentobeveryhasty

and not always to be trusted.

Suziesays

A

Itsoundslikeyouneedto

buildupyourself-confidence

andself-esteem.A good

startwouldbetomakea real

efforttovaluethepeopleyoudo

know,andtoappreciateyourself.

Askyourtravelagentabout

holidayswhereyoucanjoin

like-minded,singlepeople.And

justbecauseyourfriendshave

partnersdoesn’tmeantheywant

toloseoutongirls’nightsand

you’vemorechanceofmeeting

someone when out with friends.

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