Chat – 25 July 2019

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Nell

ASK

Our Antonella tells it how it is

Q

Mydaughter’s

havingbrainsurgery

forepilepsylaterthis

year,andI’mworriedsick.

I’mnotsurethatwe’re

makingtherightdecision.

Myhusbandjusttellsme

nottoworry,andI feelas

if I havenosupport.How

amI goingtogetthrough

thiswhenI feelsoalone?

HowcanI prepare

myselfandmydaughter

forthishuge event?

Cath, 45

A

Yourhusbandis probably

justasworriedasyouare,

butpeopleshowconcern

andstressindifferentways.

Join some online support

Q

Ilovemyboyfriend

ofthreeyears,but

herecentlystarteda

newjobandisgoingoutfor

drinksseveraltimesa week.

I’mworriedhe’sdrinking

toomuch– atweekends,

I rarelyseehimwithout

a beerandI don’tlike

thepersonhebecomes

if he’shadtoomany.

But he simply can’t

Q

I’vefalleninlove

witha bloke,but

I endedthings

becausehe’donlysee

meoncea week,which

wasn’tenough.

Thenheexplained

he’dbeenleft£30k

indebtbyhisex,and

spendsallhistime

workingtopayit off.

NowI knowthis,

I wantustotryagain,

andcandealwithonly

seeinghimoncea week

• buthewon’tbecause
  hefeelsthathecan’t
  givemethecommitment
  I deserve.
  Myheart’sbroken– do
  youhaveany advice?
  Vicki, 40

A

You’veactedrashlyand

thoughtaboutit after.

Hindsightisa greatthing.

Sithimdown,tellhimyou

misshim,youmadea mistake

andthat,nowyouknowhis

circumstances,youcandeal

withseeinghimoncea week.

If hestillsaysno,thenyou

have to let him go, I’m afraid.

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Could we

try again?

Where isthelove?

Surgery terror

Boyfriend hasbeergogglesÉ

seethathehasanyproblem,

saysI’moverreactingand

he’sjustrelaxingafterwork.

I’mworried, though!

Julia, 29

A

You’vea righttobeconcerned

ashisbehaviourhaschanged.

Weshouldallbeabletoletour

hairdown,butyoumusttellhimyou

thinkthingsaregettingoutofhand.

Anddoit soonerratherthanlater

or it could quickly become a problem.

Q

Aftera bumpy

relationshipwithmy

son’sfather– who

cheatedonmeandliked

a drink– I’mfinallyready

tosharemylifeagain.

I’vebeenoutona few

dateswitholdfriends,

butnothinghasworked

formesofar.

I’mlonely,butI just

don’t know how to meet

anybody,andI don’tknow

whereI’mgoing wrong..!

Christine, 36

A

Thingsaresodifferentthese

days– everythingseemsto

beonline.You’renotdoing

anythingwrong,sodon’tworry!

Downloadsomedatingapps

andseewhat’soutthere.You

willfindthemanofyourdreams!

Butdoyourselfa favouranddo

it sober– youcouldswiperight

on all sorts after a glass of wine!

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groups,talktopeoplewho’vehad

theoperation,askthedoctors

questions,anddoyourresearch.

Tellyourhusbandwhatyou’ve

found and open up communication

withhim.Themoreyoutalktohim

aboutthesurgeryandhowyou

feel,theeasierthingswillbecome.

Goodluck– andI wishyour

daughter a speedy recovery.