Image:
AThicketofShrubs.Inthe
forest,one shrublatches on to
another.entzmglingits
Iwighboi‘with its
thorns,
thethicketslowlyextending
its
impen-etrabledomain‘Only
whatkeepsits clistancze andstands
apartcan
growandrise above the thicket.Authority:Regard
it
asmore
courageousnottobecome involved in anengagementthan towinin
battle,
andwherethereisalready
one
interferingfool,
takecarethatthereshallnotbetwo.(Baltasar
Gracian,1601-1658}REVERSALBothparts
ofthislawwillturnagainstyou
if
youtakeittoofar.The
gameproposed
here
is
delicateanddifficult.Ifyouplay
toomanyparties
against
one
another,
they
willseethrough
themaneuverandwill
gangupon
you.Ifyoukeepyourgrowing
numberofsuitors
waitingtoolong,
youwillin-spire
notdesirebutdistrust.People
willstarttoloseinterest.Eventually
youmayfinditworthwhiletocommittoonesidevwifonly
forappearances’
sake,
to
proveyouarecapable
ofattachment.Even
then,however,
thekey
willbetomaintain
yourinnerindepen-
dence-—tokeepyourself
from
gettingemotionally
involved.Preservetheunspoken
optionofbeing
abletoleaveat
anymomentandreclaim
yourfreedomiftheside
youarealliedwithstartstocollapse.
Thefriends
youmade
while
youwerebeing
courtedwillgiveyouplenty
ofplaces
to
goonceyoujumpship.
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