fastasa
high-quality
item.Thecostsofthese
pursuits-——notalways
in
money(though
the
price
ofa
bargain
isoften
deceptive)
butintimeand
peace
of
mind—discoura.ge
normal
people
from
undertaking
them,
butfor
the
Bargain
Demonthe
bargain
isanendinitself.
These
typesmight
seemtoharm
only
themselves,
buttheirattitudes
are
contagious:
Unless
you
resistthem
they
willinfect
you
withtheinse~
cure
feeling
that
you
shouldhavelookedhardertofinda
cheaperprice.
Don’t
argue
withthemor
try
to
change
them.
justmentally
add
up
the
cost,
intimeandinner
peace
ifnotinhiddenfinancial
expense,
of
the
irra-
tional
pursuit
ofa
bargain.
TheSadist.Financialsadists
play
vicious
powergames
with
money
asa
way
of
asserting
their
power.Theymight,
for
example,
make
you
waitfor
money
that
is
owed
you,promisingyou
that
the
checkisinthemail.Orif
they
hire
you
toworkfor
them,
they
meddlein
everyaspect
ofthe
job,
haggling
and
givingyou
ulcers.Sadistsseemtothinkthat
paying
forsome
thinggives
themthe
right
totortureandabusetheseller.
They
haveno
senseof
thecouriier
element
in
money.
If
you
are
unluckyenough
to
get
involved
with
this
type,accepting
afinancialloss
may
bebetterin
the
long
runthan
gettingentangled
intheirdestructive
powergames.
TheIndiscriminateGiver.
Generosity
hasadefinitefunctionin
power:
Itattracts
people,
softensthem
up,
makesalliesout
ofthem.Butithastobe
used
strategically,
witha.definiteendinmind.Indiscriminate
Givers,
on
theother
hand,
are
generous
because
they
wanttobelovedandadmired
by
all.Andtheir
generosity
issoindiscriminateand
needy
thatit
may
not
havethedesiredeffect:If
theygive
tooneand
all.
why
shouldthe
recipient
feel
special?
Attractiveas
it
may
seemto
makeanIndiscriminateGiver
your
mark,
in
any
involvementwiththis
typeyou
willoften
feelburdened
by
theirinsatiableemotionalneeds.
TRANSGRESSIONSOFTHELAW
Transgression
I
AfterFranciscoPizarro
conquered
Peru,
in
1532,
gold
fromtheIncanEm-
pirebegan
to
pour
into
Spain,
and
Spaniards
of
allclassesstarted
dreaming
oftheinstantrichestobehadintheNewWorld.The
story
soon
spread
of
anIndianchieftotheeastofPeruwhoonceeach
year
would
ritually
cover
himselfin
gold
dustanddiveintoalake.Soonwordofmouthtransformed
El
Damrio,
the“Golden
Man,”
intoan
empire
calledEl
Dorado,
wealthier
thanthe
Incan,
wherethestreetswere
paved
andthe
buildings
inlaidwith
gold.
Thiselaborationofthe
story
didnot
seem
implausible,
for
surely
a
chiefwhocouldafiordtowaste
gold
dustinalakemustrule
a
golden
em-
pire.
Soon
Spaniards
were
searching
forElDoradoallovernorthernSouth
America.
from
their
aizubility
it}
makea
Iiviizg
andtheir
laziness’inthis
impact.
They
shouldnot
occupy
IheIn.wIves'with
abSuI'dl'lir:.s'anduntrue
vtnrirs.
THE
MUDADDIMAH.
hmKHAi,i>17~N.
1332-1406
TiiliMl2~.F.R
A
mixer,
(0makesun:
ofllisproperly,
S0111all
(ha!hehadand
converteditintoa
great
lumpofgvld,
whichhe
hillinaholeinthe
ground,
andwent
cominuully
[(1viii:and
inspect
it.Thistamed
the
curiosityof
one
of
his
workmen,who,
suxpecting
thatthere
wasatreasure,when
hismarreriv
backwas
Iurncd,
wan!tothe
spot,
andrroleit
away.
Whenthemixer
returnedand
formal
Jim
placeempty.
he
wept
andtorehishair.But
a
mzighbor
whosawhim
inthis
extravagant
grief:
andlearnedthe
cause
ofil,
raid:
“Frrl
rhymlfnolonger,
but
lakeorstoneand
put
ii
inthesame
place.
and
thinkthatitis
your
lumpofgolri;/"or.
as
you
nevermeanttouse
it,theonewilldo
_\'au
asmuch
good
asthe
other."
Theworth
ofmoney
is‘
no!inits
pnsscrsiorz,
butinitsuse.
FABIes.
/\I§S0l’.
SIXTHci:.\n'uRvs.c.
LAW 40 335