REVF.RSAL
Inthe
beginning
of
yourrisetothe
top,youmust
attractattention
atallcost,
butas
yourisehigheryou
mustconstantlyadapt.
Neverwearthepub-
licoutwiththesametactic.Anairof
mystery
workswondersforthosewhoneedto
develop
anauraof
powerand
getthemselves
noticed,
butitmustseemmeasuredandundercontrol.MataHariwenttoofarwithherfabri-
cations;
although
theaccusationthatshewasa
spywas
false,atthetimeitwasareasonable
presumption
because
all
her
lies
madeherseem
suspi-ciousandnefarious.Donotlet
yourairof
mysterybeslowly
transformedintoa
reputation
fordeceit.The
mystery
youcreatemustseema
game,playful
andunthreatening.Recognize
whenit
goestoo
far,
and
pullback.Therearetimeswhenthe needforattentionmust
be
deferred,andwhenscandaland
notoriety
arethelastthingsyou
wanttocreate.Theat-tention
you
attractmustneveroffendorchallenge
thereputation
ofthoseabove
you—not,
at
any
rate,
ifthey
aresecure.Youwillseemnot
onlypal-
try
butdesperatebycomparison.
Thereisanartto
knowingwhentodrawnoticeandwhentowithdraw.
LolaMontezwasoneofthe
greatpractitionersofthe
artof
attractingattention.Shemanaged
torisefromamiddle—classIrishbackground
tobeing
theloverofFranzLisztandthenthemistressandpolitical
adviserofKingLudwig
ofBavaria.Inherlater
years,though,
shelosthersenseofproportion.
InLondon
in
1850 therewastobe
aperformance
ofShakespeare’s
Macbethfeaturing
thegreatest
actorofthe
time,
Charles
johnKean.Every-
oneof
consequenceinEnglishsociety
wastobe
there;
itwasrumoredthatevenQueen
VictoriaandPrinceAlbertweretomakeapublicappearance.
Thecustomofthe
period
demandedthat
everyonebeseatedbeforethequeenanived.Sotheaudience
gottherealittleearly,
andwhenthe
queenenteredherroyal
box,they
observedtheconventionofstandingup
andapplauding
her.Theroyalcouple
waited,
thenbowed.Everyone
satdownandthelights
weredimmed.
Then,suddenly,
all
eyesturnedtoabox
op-positeQueen
Victoria’s:Awomanappeared
fromtheshadows,
taking
herseatlaterthanthe
queen.ItwasLolaMontez.Sheworea
diamond
tiaraonherdarkhairandalong
furcoatoverhershoulders.Peoplewhispered
inamazementastheerminecloakwasdropped
torevealalow-necked
gownofcrimsonvelvet.By
turningtheirheads,
theaudiencecouldseethattheroyalcoupledeliberately
avoided
lookingatLola’sbox.They
followedVictoria’sexample,
andfortherestofthe
eveningLolaMontezwasig-
nored.
After
that
eveningno
oneinfashionablesociety
daredtobeseenwithher.Allhermagneticpowers
werereversed.People
wouldfleehersight.
HerfutureinEngland
wasfinished.Neverappearoverlygreedy
forattention,then,
foritsignalsinsecurity,
and
insecuritydrives
poweraway.Understandthattherearetimeswhenitisnotin
yourinterestto
be
thecenter
of
attention.Wheninthe
presenceofaking
or
queen,for
instance,
ortheequivalent
thereof,
bowandretreattotheshadows;
never
compete.LAW 6I55