CHANGING THOUGHTS AND MAKING AMENDS

This conversation may be causing me to change my mind, but I have
often thought that making amends, for example, is a way of reprogramming
your subconscious mind.

Source never forgives anyone because Source never condemns anybody to
begin with.

Doesn’t blame   in  the first   place,  yeah.

So when you feel the way Source feels about someone, you’re in sync with
Source. You may call it forgiveness; we call it alignment. And you get hooked
on that feeling because it sure feels better to love them than to hate them.

Oh, yeah.

Esther has said to us on more than one occasion, “Well, Abraham, maybe I
need to tell you more about that person. It seems to me you’re being a little
unrealistic in your unconditional love for them.” But, you see, unconditional
love is loving because that’s what you do. That’s who-you-are. In conditional
love you say, “If you change your behavior, then I will love you.”

But that is such a trap for you and for them, because now you are trying to
figure out which behavior is the appropriate behavior. And no one feels good.
You are mad at each other in your disagreements about what is right and what is
wrong. And meanwhile, Source is loving all of you and feeling very good.