I was enjoying the BPG Facebook group a few months ago when it struck me that there were many photos
posted of attractive young women, but none in the same vein of men. While I’ve often been told that the reason
for this is that men are more visually stimulated than women, that doesn’t align with my own experience, so I
asked in the group about the discrepancy.
Mark replied with the adage “The camera looks both ways.” Yes, I thought. Photography is a two-way
street. While his point didn’t necessarily answer my question, it raised a bunch of new and more interesting
questions. Why did I notice—or even care—if there were more photos of women? Was I projecting onto them
that they appeared uncomfortable or were being objectified, when I couldn’t possibly know? And what’s the
difference between being an active subject versus a passive object in front of the camera? Is it possible for a
model and photographer to have a mutually respectful and nourishing relationship—and if so, how?
If my questions sound cynical, it’s because they come from a challenging place. I occasionally worked as a
model for 20 years from the age of 14, during which I saw some of the worst of humanity. Later as a therapist,
writer, and monastic trainee, I continued to come across some of the worst of humanity. To cut a long story
short, I think the nature of being is such that it’s easy for any of us to fall into a transactional and objectifying
relationship, even when all we really want is to connect and give joy.
The camera looks both ways... I also think that it can be easy as a photographer to delve beyond the
surface and give more. More often than not, it’s a matter of waiting and listening without judgment. For
example, maybe the model whom we want to think of as sexy has something else that she wishes she could
express; and maybe that’s more compelling than what we hoped to see.
This month I was grateful to be accepted by the group for a modelling experiment, in which I—now middle-
aged, sleep-deprived, and far beyond ambitions of looking sexy—was curious what I might look like through
everyone’s lens. Which of the shots might match how I felt? Perhaps the camera would pick up on things that
even I don’t know about myself?
I was amazed at the process and outcome. It was a tremendously fun walk with 48 beautiful photographers.
While this may sound trite, together we saw each other and the world. Today it might be me in front of the
camera; tomorrow it might be you. Either way, it feels good to be seen.
Thank you,
Mia.
Magazine Editor
Ben Reeves
Photo Walk Coordinator
Mark A. Hathaway
Administrative Support
Chutima Panjapan
Logo Design
Ubonpayom Ongsara
Guest Model
Mia Livingston
Front Cover Photo
Narz
Group Photo
Chutima Panjapan
Back Cover Photo
Arthon Sithtisarn
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