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dopamine, because they know it will lead to something better. The goal
of the therapy is to stoke the flames of desire for a better life.
MET therapists build up motivation by encouraging their patients
to talk about their healthy desires. There’s an old saying: “We don’t
believe what we hear, we believe what we say.” For example, if you give
someone a lecture on the importance of honesty, then have them play
a game in which cheating is rewarded, you’ll probably find that the lec-
ture had little effect. On the other hand, if you ask someone to give you
a lecture on the importance of honesty, they will be less likely to cheat
when they sit down to play the game.
MET is a little manipulative. When the patient makes a statement
the therapist likes, referred to as a pro-change statement, such as, “Some-
times I have trouble getting to work on time after a night of heavy drink-
ing,” the therapist responds with positive reinforcement, or a request to
“tell me more about that.” On the other hand, if the patient makes
an anti-change statement, such as, “I work hard all day, and I deserve to
relax in the evening with a few martinis,” the therapist doesn’t argue,
because that would provoke more anti-change statements as the debate
goes back and forth. Instead, she simply changes the subject. Patients
usually don’t notice what’s going on, so the technique slips past their
conscious defenses, and they spend the majority of the therapy hour
making pro-change statements.
COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL THERAPY: CONTROL
DOPAMINE VERSUS DESIRE DOPAMINE
It’s better to be smart than strong. Instead of trying to attack an addic-
tion head on through willpower, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT)
uses the planning ability of control dopamine to defeat the raw power
of desire dopamine. Addicts who struggle to stay clean are most often
defeated when they are unable to resist craving. CBT therapists teach
patients that craving is triggered by cues: drugs, alcohol, and things that
remind the addict of drugs and alcohol (people, places, and things). Cues
that suddenly and unexpectedly remind an addict of drugs produce a