Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

I have a friend who’s successful, has plenty of money, a beau-
tiful family—the ideal life. And one evening while we were
sitting around with a few of our friends shooting the breeze
about how satisfied we are with our stations in life, my boy an-
nounced with a slick grin, “I love my wife, man, but I got this
cold one on the side.” We were surprised—don’t get me wrong.
But we accepted that from him because we all know that this
man hasn’t got his priorities right yet, and there’s nothing we
can do or say to make him do it. He knows that once he’s stepped
out on his wife, he’s putting something else before God and
family. But only he can put his house in order. Now, if he’s
young, that might come with mental maturity; the old-timers
say all the time that experience is priceless—too bad you have to
pay for it with your youth. Of course, maturity and age go hand
in hand, but circumstances bring it about, too: if a man is a spiri-
tual person and he’s got a relationship with God, he’ll mature
much more quickly, just because his beliefs will hold him to a
much more stringent moral code. And that moral code will au-
tomatically make him put family second, because this is what a
relationship with God demands. Now, he’ll make it a priority to
find a woman who completes his life, someone who can be the
mother of his children—who can make his unit complete.
Sometimes men wise up without God in their lives. I have a
buddy who had all kinds of women doing all kinds of things to
him and for him, and he finally got into a position where he
said, “Man, I got all these women and I can get them to do all