Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

clear on the fact that if he steps out of the union, he stays out of
the union. And if he breaks that promise and steps out anyway?
You’ve got to be prepared to let him go and walk away. You
can’t find out your man cheated, confront him about it, and
then stay with him, only to question his every move and nag
him about what he’s doing every chance you get. Because that
simply means you never really forgave him, and you’re creating
a situation that’s ripe for him to cheat again. You’ve got to
either let him go, or find it in your heart to truly forgive the
man and work on a way to move forward with him.
Now sometimes, it takes a man to lose something or nearly
lose something to really appreciate it. But isn’t that true of ev-
erybody? Some men cheat because there’s never been a penalty
for it. But if a man who’s cheated on you sees you walking out
the door and you matter to him, please know that at this point
he’s very vulnerable and open to learning. Should he win you
back, he’s going to straighten up and fly right because he’s
almost lost his girl and his family, which means he’ll do most
anything you tell him to get back into your good graces. He’s
going to work to earn your trust back—follow your require-
ments to get back on the team. If that means he has to be home
by a certain time, call when he’s going to be late, send flowers
every week, find a sitter so you all can have a date night on
Thursdays, go to church with you on Sundays, even sit on a
psychologist’s couch and air out all of your dirty laundry until
you’re satisfied he’s a changed man, then that’s what he’ll do.