no intention of ever going, and he has no belief system he can
point to as a guiding force in his life, then it’s a problem. After
all, what moral barometer does he answer to if not to God?
What’s going to make him even consider being loyal to you?
What’s going to make him do right by you and the kids? What’s
going to make him feel whole? I’m not saying that you shouldn’t
date a man who doesn’t go to church, or who has a different
belief system than you. But if his core beliefs don’t match up
with yours, you’re likely to have a problem.
These next two questions should be asked after you’ve been
talking and dating for a while. Ideally, ask them before you
have parted with the cookie (y’all know what I mean). If you
have already had a sexual encounter with the man, you can ask
these questions anyway. The answers may hurt a little bit more,
but at least you’ll know.
Now, this one you’ll have to ask after a few dates, because
he’s going to need time to get to know you. But his answer will
be critical because it will reveal to you what his plans for you
are. If you’ve been out on a couple of dates and you’ve had lots
of conversation, you know something about him, but what’s
more important, you want to know what he is thinking about