that makes you a great mom. And so forth with whatever char-
acteristic he attributes to you. The level of his specifics will
give you yet another clue into this man’s intentions for your
relationship. If he can give you specifics, it means he’s been
listening and adding it up—he’s determining if he’s going to
keep you, if he can see himself in a committed relationship
with you. And that could mean that you’re at least on the same
relationship page.
Now this is not to be confused with what do you “think”
about me—“think” and “feel” are two wholly different things.
And if a man cannot tell you how he feels about you after a
month of dating, it’s because he doesn’t feel anything for
you—he just wants something. Ask a man how he feels about
you, and he’s going to get confused and nervous: “I told you
before—I think you’re.. .” he begins. You cut him right off
and say, “No, no, I want to know how you feel about me.” He
might shift in his chair, scratch his head, light a cigar—any-
thing to get out of giving you an answer or thinking of what he
thinks you want him to say. But you’ll have to get him to
answer it.
Don’t get upset if he doesn’t answer right away: he’s got to