Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

It’s just plain dumb.
Get into your man’s mind-set here: if a man is willing to be
your boyfriend at length, live with you, be an involved father,
or give you a ring, he has already taken himself off the player’s
list—technically, he’s scratched his name off the sport fishing
registry. He can’t bring babes to the house. He can’t talk on the
phone or take any phone calls from babes at the house. He can’t
leave to go see a babe when he wants to—or stay with her all
night. He knows he can’t give his money to any other woman
because he’s pooling it with you. Why does a man in a commit-
ted relationship with you accept the above list of “he can’ts”?
Because he wants you and he doesn’t want to lose you.
So now there’s only one more step to get the marriage equa-
tion: the setting of the wedding date. You know you want it, so
here’s what you do: get some requirements and standards and
enforce them—tell him, “I love you, you love me, we’re in a
terrific relationship—one that I’ve always dreamed about. And
what I want now is to be married to you. So I need you to set a
date, and get back to me in a couple of weeks. If I don’t get
asked by then, then please know I’m not sitting around waiting
for you to dictate when my happiness button gets pushed. The
arrangements we have now are not making me happy.”
What? This is a perfectly reasonable request. Otherwise,
how long are you going to stay in the arrangement where you’re
not getting what you want—four years? Ten years? Forever?
The timeline is yours; stop giving up your power. The