always triggers a reflex in a man; he might be liable to say,
“Oh, okay—two can play at that game!” If you feel like
you have to make him jealous because you’re not getting
the attention you want, you might want to consult the
“Men Need Standards—Get Some” chapter, and then use
some of those tips to get the man you need and deserve.
I strongly suggest that if you’re in a fully committed
relationship, all the chitchat you’re having with a male
friend gets dialed back. Take down the college pictures
of the two of you, don’t let him call the house or send
gifts and such; continuing this every day is just asking for
trouble. Think about it: I don’t care if you could only see
her picture in the dark with an invisible blue light; if
your man kept a picture of another woman in his per-
sonal belongings, you’d lose your mind. How would you
like it if he had a woman calling the house asking to
speak to him? Or he accepted flowers from her? Exactly.
What I suggest is that you avoid doing anything that will
make your man have uncomfortable thoughts about you
and someone else—period. Form a two-handed circle
and don’t let anyone else in, especially male “friends.”
You’ll be happy you did.