What triggered these feelings?
- I felt excluded A Great Deal Definitely a little Not at all
- I was not A Great Deal Definitely a little Not at all
important to
my spouse - I felt cold toward A Great Deal Definitely a little Not at all
my spouse - I definitely felt A Great Deal Definitely a little Not at all
rejected - I was criticized A Great Deal Definitely a little Not at all
- I felt no affection A Great Deal Definitely a little Not at all
toward my
partner - I felt that my A Great Deal Definitely a little Not at all
partner was not
attracted to me - My sense of A Great Deal Definitely a little Not at all
dignity was being
compromised. - My partner A Great Deal Definitely a little Not at all
was being
domineering.
10.I could not A Great Deal Definitely a little Not at all
persuade my
partner at all.
Now that you know what triggered this episode, it's time to see
whether your emotional reaction is rooted in your past. Look over
your answers to the "Who Am I?" exercise on p. 56. See if you can
find connections there between earlier traumas or behavior and the
current situation.Use the following checklist to facilitate this search
for links between the past and present.